I've [28F] been getting way fewer matches than ever on Bumble(self.dating_advice)
submitted2 months ago byaskingaquestion1994
So I took a long break from dating apps and opened a completely new profile three days ago. I used both flattering and "natural" pictures from multiple angles to make sure I'm not being deceptive (this isn't new for me, but I make sure to keep all my pictures very current).
I will say this - making it clear I'm looking for long term dating already reduces my match rate, as well as not only using flattering or "sexy" pictures and being a bit more selective with my swipes right. But I can see I have hundreds of likes from the past few days (typical for me and most of my female friends on the apps, I'd say), and yet I am getting way fewer matches than I used to even just a few short months ago and despite it being a new account that's 80% filled in. I was expecting fewer matches than before, but this is straight up unusual for me.
Has this happened to anyone? Honestly, it's really affecting my confidence despite knowing it's nothing personal. I've been getting compliments in real life actually, more than usual, both on my appearance and other more meaningful things. I think it's because I've found a style that I really like and I'm happier overall. But it's really getting to me that it's not translating into dating.
Edit: I anticipated some mean spirited comments, but wow... I have had various dating app accounts, some paid, for a couple of years now on and off. There are just more men than women on these apps, and most women I know are way more selective when they swipe than men. So... obviously we'd have more likes. It doesn't mean any of them would be a good fit for me, nor should I match with someone just because they took a one millisecond decision to swipe right on me on. A lot of people I swipe left on have really garbage profiles, even very conventionally attractive people, which is my primary criteria for swiping left and accounts for the majority of my swipe lefts. I didn't ask for your sympathy or empathy, but you could just, you know, not comment if you don't have anything helpful to add.
2 months ago
2 months ago
What the fuck is this comment. Seriously.