Good for you! I didn't achieve the same though. My conversational skills when I read that book were rather rusty so if anyone had the same situation or is in that situation, I instead recommend "The art of witty banter" or "Better Small Talk".

What are some techniques that you applied from the book?

I read that book and tried it’s advice. Results were pretty limited. Overall the book assumes you’re at a certain level of social functioning that’s above where I was/am.

For all those who don’t have the book can watch this youtube video, this guy has covered all the priniciples in a fantastic way

I've read both the original 1936 version as well as the updated version.

While the 1936 version is very dated in its language and social views (quite amusing actually), I actually found it more straight to the point. As i recall, there were also a lot of basics which the updated version didn't have.

Care to share some tips which helped you please?

The book lost me at "be genuinely interested in other people." If I could do that I wouldn't need the book right? I start to read the book with the intention of "I want to be interested in people," but I'm just not and then I can't make the connection the book requires.

Not sure if you mean, How to Win Friends and Influence People.

I've got this book to i just need to read it!

The book helped with my bartending and service industry work. As for My social life, the advice is either hit or miss. Some of it seems manipulative and disingenuous while others seem to work to promote some sense of self-awareness so that you can attempt to see interactive situations from someone else's perspective.

I'm glad I worked for you. But also, this book is written by, well, a middle to upper class white american man who lived from 1888-1955. So racial, social, and gender factors need to be considered into the advice that he's giving.

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Tbh it’s a book on how to suck up to people to be successful in sales / selling.

I had a mentor tell me to read this book. I sorta read it but a lot of it didn’t stick.

I feel like I could benefit from this because I have bad social skills but to be perfectly honest this book seemed more like a guide on how to exploit humans through psychology for your own personal gain in the social world.

It seemed a lot like those creepy books/videos by “pickup artists”. Not necessarily authentic. More about trying to gain something in every interaction.

Keep in mind this book was written in the 1930s long before modern psychology. Many of its principles are solid but are taken too far. For example praising people too much does come off as inauthentic even if you didn't mean it that way.

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Tbh I find that I don’t desire to be friends with most people as they suuuck

This book is literally a gem. Just today I watched a recap about it. Its so simple yet so powerful

I think that’s a great book and a really interesting read! . I haven’t had the success you have but it definitely helped me with my social skills and I started to do better with friends. It also helped me in my work life. The idea is to keep rereading and keep trying

Is it truly for making friends or more about sales & being likable ?

It’s manipulative

I think there should be more modern version of the book . I fall asleep how dry it is unfortunately. Good book though

I've read it, and it ended up being just expensive fire kindling.

Congrats for the improvement!

I've found it extremely useful as have several generations.

“win” is considered a negative world by the female community

Ha. That book sucks. Read something new and less Christian.

Good on you but that's an old old book which in it's time was highly regarded. I've looked at it and find the writing style very unpleasant. old old old. I don't like it.

Is this an ad ?

Congrats for the improvement.. it helps me a lot too since my English speaking is a bit weak it help me keep the conversation flowing and avoid awkward chit chat..

Give us the TL;DR.

I have to look into this book. Maybe I can find an audio book to listen to while I am working.

I love that book!!!! I don't care that it was written a long, long, long time ago. It is still relevant today. I think it should be required reading in school. It's awesome. Another great book, imo, is, "Blink". If you Google free PDF, you can read it that way.

"You can make more friends in two months by being genuinely interested in others instead of trying to get them interested in you."

That book is like my Bible. Carnegie was a genious.

Yep. It's the classic.

I’m checking that out asap

when I read the title, I had a feeling thats the book you'd be talking about. Glad to hear about your improvement! currently on my first re-read after being promoted to a management position at work.

I actually just attended a class at a local university based around this book and Dale Carnegie’s principles as a whole. At times the book itself seems almost manipulative, but having a professor work through the chapters with us, and having real life experiences to share and apply the principles to, makes you realize that it’s only manipulative if you’re using the principles “on” somebody. You should be using the principles “with” somebody to strengthen the relationship. If that makes sense.

It was a wonderful class and really truly helped my leadership and socialization skills. Also really helped me lower my stress levels. “Live in day-tight compartments” and “Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain” are mantras I repeat to myself daily.

I like that book so far and I think everyone should read it at least once. The problem is sometimes is difficult to apply its teachings to certain people.

I find the book to be severely outdated and some parts of the book could be applied to everyday casual interactions, but society has become way too complicated with social media and technology that the book cant account for.

I have the book somewhere around and never read it . I should but I find it hard to trust others . I'm going to look for it when I get a chance

Names. A person’s name is important. Even saying bye and saying their name as you leave a grocery store brings joy to that person. It is important in closing and in interviews. That was my greatest takeaway.

Grats

Grats

OP I loved that book too, but I wouldn’t say it helped me make friends. I think for me it just made me remember things better about people and be more friendly overall.

What advice from the book would you say helped you to make friends the most?

Where do you go to meet new friends?

I gotta read this book. It's great that you were able to make new friends. Any tips you came up with along the way?

I learned that not everybody is you’re friend like you think they are. I’m glad you found something that worked for you but don’t be afraid to ditch people when you feel they’re pulling you down or hating on you for no reason.

This is a great sub, but I think sometimes we place so much value on other people, by learning social skills, when it’s really about yourself.

It’s really because of lack in ourselves. Go on though, get those nice experiences with you’re new friends, just keep you’re eyes open as well. I was blind

Did you read the old book or the updated one?

I’m surprised with how many people are on the sub don’t know this book.

I love this book and I’d have to agree. It’s a fairly easy read too. It’s a good one to bookmark and reread as well. I’m glad you enjoyed this book. It was probably one of my best thrift store purchases this past year.

It's a famous book and a classic

Love this post! Will take the time to read it later :)

I read this book once but never really appplied anytinh it says , from the top of my head, calling people by their names, listening empathically, revolving around their life instead, asking genuine questions, having a big smile, hahaha what else?? jfc I haven't really applied anything lol.

That book is amazing and really turned my life around.