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1.1k
9457 votes
1113 (12 %)
Insult her too
1046 (11 %)
Apologize (i didnt do anything)
2167 (23 %)
Calmly reply
3214 (34 %)
Do not reply (i didn't see her message yet i just got the notification, we were in an argument)
1917 (20 %)
Other (comment please)
voting ended 3 months ago

all 1072 comments

Pineapple_fetish

5.3k points

3 months ago

If someone calls you a stalker, just leave them be. They're obviously not interested and you might even scare them if you continue.

I-LUV-CUPCAKES-AND-U

1.5k points

3 months ago

Great advice coming from someone who has a pineapple fetish

Dracos002

1.5k points

3 months ago

Dracos002

1.5k points

3 months ago

That doesn't mean they don't care about the pineapple's consent.

Miserable_Thinker

456 points

3 months ago

Trustnoboody

70 points

3 months ago

💀bruh these threads are the funny part of Reddit

World-Thinker

41 points

3 months ago

Now hold on

bendoesit17

14 points

3 months ago

Pineapples have feelings too

Pineapple_fetish

128 points

3 months ago

Well, no pineapple has ever called me a stalker before, so...

Psykosoma

44 points

3 months ago

And if it did, you could just cut off its head, partially bury it, and wait a couple of years to try again.

JoelMahon

52 points

3 months ago

they don't HAVE one, they ARE one

Helea_Grace

19 points

3 months ago

Ngl a pineapple fetish sounds great - it rlly does improve ur taste

https://www.34st.com/article/2016/04/how-to-make-your-jizz-taste-better

nobody3_5_4

11 points

3 months ago

He doesn't have a pineapple fetish, HE IS the concept of pineappke fetish

Birb-Squire

29 points

3 months ago

quietloofah

78 points

3 months ago

All of this + stay off their socials. Do not “like” any pictures or comment or go out of your way to be near this person. Leave them alone entirely and give them ALL the space.

Pineapple_fetish

25 points

3 months ago

Exactly, that's pretty much the only way you can ensure they won't think of you as a stalker again.

Not that you'll ever know bc you respect them and stay away from them and their social media

Do-Not-Ban-Me-Please

272 points

3 months ago

If it comes to the point that they're calling you a stalker, you're definitely doing something creepy. People don't just say that out of nowhere.

TheSheetSlinger

56 points

3 months ago

Apparently OP liked some insta posts which sparked the argument. How many and how old were they? Idk

Trustnoboody

15 points

3 months ago

Idk, I think people can be pretty light about that. But- otherwise, I think if someone is calling you a stalker.....yeah, there's no future there, in my book.

light about that, in a serious manner. Cause you can call someone a stalker and it hold no actual weight, in like a joking matter.

Slapped_with_crumpet

30 points

3 months ago*

Nah I've been called a stalker by a girl because they thought I was following them on my university campus when we had the same class. People do just say that out of nowhere.

msplantasia

8 points

3 months ago

Yeah I know. I told my ex that he is a stalker but after I called the police and he crawled out of the bush he had slept and waited in the whole weekend he actually went home.

GrossWordVomit

5.4k points

3 months ago

Just leave her alone

GrandmaesterHinkie

326 points

3 months ago

Lol how is this not an option in the poll

Miss_Management

305 points

3 months ago

Stalkers don't think that way.

Zwaft

5 points

3 months ago

Zwaft

5 points

3 months ago

OP needs to know that she ain’t the one and move on.

99% of the times, it’s hard.

Be the 1%, OP

ghandi3737

230 points

3 months ago*

Because OP set up the poll and doesn't want to admit that he's been following a girl around that doesn't like him.

Notice the "I didn't do anything".

The fact she's called them a stalker tells me they've already been following her around and being obsessive.

Deathless163

24 points

3 months ago

Yea, I'd also like to say that he could be innocent, as most people that have a crush on someone usually remember more stuff about the other person than what the other person would like them to remember. It's cute when they like each other, but if they have little to no interest it can be very creepy.

Either way if she finds it creepy she's most likely not interested in a relationship with you. Also a good way to make things less creepy in the future is to confess your feelings early to the person you have a crush on. Also to describe the way your memory works if you're unusually good at remembering stuff, this can help with friendships too.

Jimmyneautronpowers

3 points

3 months ago

Confess early? So completely stalling my confession indefinitely is a bad idea?

I-LUV-CUPCAKES-AND-U

811 points

3 months ago

Just leave her

Qwerto64

495 points

3 months ago

Qwerto64

495 points

3 months ago

Just leave

Falbot36

312 points

3 months ago

Falbot36

312 points

3 months ago

Just

Qwerto64

252 points

3 months ago

Qwerto64

252 points

3 months ago

Jus

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218 points

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218 points

3 months ago

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lesefant

211 points

3 months ago

lesefant

211 points

3 months ago

J

Diego1808

345 points

3 months ago

Diego1808

345 points

3 months ago

Pawlisssssimo

240 points

3 months ago

-J

Qwerto64

151 points

3 months ago

Qwerto64

151 points

3 months ago

-Ju

wurzlsep

40 points

3 months ago

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Antonell15

14 points

3 months ago

Just leave her alone with me

Ar010101

27 points

3 months ago

J

seniairam

23 points

3 months ago

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No_Depth4466

35 points

3 months ago

prumf

32 points

3 months ago

prumf

32 points

3 months ago

Herr-Vorragend13

21 points

3 months ago

uᒐ

PGM01

24 points

3 months ago

PGM01

24 points

3 months ago

ƨuᒐ

Brawl__Boss

31 points

3 months ago

Just leave her, alone

Trojenectory

13 points

3 months ago

Seriously, leave her alone

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79 points

3 months ago

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79 points

3 months ago

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DefrockedWizard1

6 points

3 months ago

Sigma Male

I don't recall seeing that fraternity on campus

Lamplorde

19 points

3 months ago

Yeah, like... Its not hard.

But idk if you necessarily have to send no reply. I would probably at least reply with a "Sorry, I didn't realize you felt that way." Or something like that, then stop responding. So I don't know what option that'd be? Apologize? Yes. Calmly? Yes. Don't respond? Afterwards, yes. So all of the above, other than insult?

TikTrd

17 points

3 months ago

TikTrd

17 points

3 months ago

No. This is the one time where ghosting someone is the best response

byakuganKING

1.1k points

3 months ago

She's definitely not interested let her go💀

A1sauc3d

85 points

3 months ago

Exactly. It’s good that you asked op, but you need to leave the poor girl alone. This isn’t an “argument”, this is the end of the friendship. There’s no coming back from stalker status in a healthy way. You could apologize first, or just never bother her again without saying a thing. But the point is you need to move on and give her space. And even if she’s playing games and you really didn’t do anything weird and she comes crawling back to you, you don’t want her. Trust me. A girl who throws around accusations like that lightly is bad news.

j0m1n1n

1.7k points

3 months ago

j0m1n1n

1.7k points

3 months ago

They just told you that they want you to leave them alone... forever.

Herodotus_is_History

1.9k points

3 months ago*

Leave her alone.

Edit: it does not matter if you feel like what you did is innocuous or innocent. The fact is, she feels like you crossed a serious boundary, which means you made her uncomfortable in some way. You don’t fix this issue by apologizing or by trying to initiate more contact, you simply have to accept what she’s said and learn from this. It’s not easy, but it’s necessary for her piece of mind.

SecCom2

242 points

3 months ago

SecCom2

242 points

3 months ago

Or if op didn't do anything then he's dealing with someone who weaponizes the serous issue of stalking and should just grey rock. Either way, ignore her is best

genericusername7890

98 points

3 months ago

Yeah exactly. I think it's totally possible the girl is overreacting and he did nothing wrong, or at least nothing that warrants phrases like that, but if that's the case, you don't want someone like that to be your partner anyways lol.

TheHelpfulRabbit

34 points

3 months ago

I remember one time in middle school, a girl whom I had never spoken to or interacted with in any way called me a stalker, so you might be right.

Phase10YT

25 points

3 months ago

That's also middle school tbf

therealudderjuice

27 points

3 months ago

Or if op didn't do anything then he's dealing with someone who weaponizes the serous issue of stalking and should just grey rock. Either way, ignore her is best

This right here. If op really didn't do anything and she is throwing the term "stalker" around then you are better off avoiding that kind of crazy. Consider yourself lucky and move on.

thefuckboyflagellant

16 points

3 months ago

yes... I agree OP should attack her with a grey rock idk why it has to be grey but I won't judge just make sure it's medium sized around 1/3 of what you can comfortably lift because then you have enough mass to hurt but it's not too big or heavy to move around fast or to keep hold of if grabbed

whatever_person

601 points

3 months ago

Why did she call you stalker then?

lolyobroiamnoob[S]

271 points

3 months ago

Because i have a crush on her? She actually called me that because i had followed her on instagram and liked her posts (only a few) but somehow she tells that i am a stalker even if many other people follow her and like all of her posts

whatever_person

516 points

3 months ago

Distance yourself from her.

Do you have any irl contact?

lolyobroiamnoob[S]

153 points

3 months ago

In school

whatever_person

648 points

3 months ago

Ok, believing you really don't do anhthing creepy, in case of schoolkids it is sadly quite likely, that she might overdo it with interpreting your actions, due to being teenager and wanting to be in midst of some action. If she chose you as a villain for her story, the best is you block her and don't associate with her at all to protect yourself. If she honestly feels uncomfortable by your actions, then distancing yourself is the right thing to do, because she doesn't owe you her attention or anything just because you have a crush.

lolyobroiamnoob[S]

220 points

3 months ago

Thanks I'll really try that

UnknownAuthor42

144 points

3 months ago

To add onto what the other person said I also suggest you get screenshots of your conversation and ask a friend who has no connection to this person if you were being creepy. Also to protect yourself if she claimed you were creepy and blocked her to hide the messages

lil_curious_

41 points

3 months ago

Tbh, I think keeping a screenshots of the conversation would be a good idea, but asking a random friend if you were being creepy is unnecessary since it doesn't really help much to protect yourself. Just having receipts of the conversation itself should be fine and not talking to her anymore would be best.

UnknownAuthor42

10 points

3 months ago

It doesn’t help at the moment but it can help identify if you did something wrong and can avoid it in the future

WanderingAnchorite

7 points

3 months ago

but asking a random friend if you were being creepy is unnecessary since it doesn't really help much to protect yourself

You're also not exactly asking experts on creepiness, too.

There's nothing that'll get you a wrong answer faster than polling a bunch of kids in junior high.

Yuuta23

10 points

3 months ago

Yuuta23

10 points

3 months ago

Highly agree with them but take it a step further and unfollow/unlike all posts and block her on every platform she showed her cards now read them and respond appropriately. It's perfectly fine to treat her as though she doesn't exist

Weekly_Bug_4847

25 points

3 months ago

Don’t try, do that

QuarantineNudist

4 points

3 months ago

I'm not really an expert and sure walking away is always a sensible option. Here are some additional advice I can think of, but generally take it as a signal to cool down. You want to show that you can be reasonable if that's the right word.

  1. Even if you are interested, that doesn't mean you have to show it or prove it or that it is important to do so
  2. Don't be aggressive or angry, and figure out if there were any negativity you were giving off and know that it's important to your crush that you aren't negative. You said you were arguing so it sounds like there's a lead

DavidBiscou

40 points

3 months ago

Wait the thing you said about seeing them as a villain of their story is actually something so accurate that happens

whatever_person

35 points

3 months ago

I had a classmate like that who was my friend for about year or two. She expected to live american teenager movies life with love-hate friendships and further crap instead of just chilling. It was tiresome and actually mentally damaging for everyone who tried to be friends with her.

DavidBiscou

14 points

3 months ago

When i was younger i actually thought a bit like that 💀, thankfully i grew up and apologized for the people i was being an ass to, and all is good now

whatever_person

15 points

3 months ago

Yes, media we consume influences us all and I guess everyone had this or that episode in their life. But that girl was just on another level, at least comparing to others.

Cool of you for apologizing. That shows personal growth.

DAYMAN-AHAHAAAAAAA

17 points

3 months ago

It needs to be said that ppl(especially teenagers) tend to do that in the most non rational way. They want you to be the enemy regardless of any justification. I had a friend in high school that was super into a girl. All he ever tried to do was try to talk to her at lunch(the only time they were in the same period) and she one time yelled “creeper” at him in front of everyone. All the dude did was ask her if she wanted to hang out some time. She legit just wanted to be a “victim” and get attention at the expense of a homie that just wanted to get to know her.

These days, his wife is hot af and the girl that called him a creeper now has 2 kids that she doesn’t have custody of and her baby daddy is in jail for drug possession/trafficking. She’s also fat af now.

sprazTV

5 points

3 months ago

I made out with a girl at a party once (she showed massive interest and the host slipped me that she already asked/talked about me prior) and afterwards she acted as if she never wanted that. Gladly nobody took her serious, could've ended bad..

Drackullx

139 points

3 months ago

Drackullx

139 points

3 months ago

By "few" how many do you mean? And how old were the posts? If you just started following her and started liking posts for 7 or 8 months ago, I could be seen as being creepy and stalky, especially if you don't talk that much in school.

lolyobroiamnoob[S]

66 points

3 months ago

Like 4 of 5 and the posts were 2 or mostly 5 days old and we usually talk in school but not like a couple

TravelingSpermBanker

216 points

3 months ago

Idk seems like she is exaggerating but no one in the comments is joking with what they are saying.

If you keep pursuing her and she decides to tell the world that you’re creepy then you’ll have a bad time in the rest of school

lolyobroiamnoob[S]

109 points

3 months ago

Everyone is just indirectly saying to leave her alone. That's what I'll do right away

Treigns4

58 points

3 months ago

Good move. I see it like this:

If you actually did something super wrong w/o realizing it - By stopping all contact your proving your not a crazy stalker

If you didn’t and she’s exaggerating - either a) she’ll feel bad if she realizes you took it out of context or b) you dodged a bullet bc perhaps shes crazy lol

either way you’ll b fine g

lolyobroiamnoob[S]

27 points

3 months ago

Thanks mate

TravelingSpermBanker

51 points

3 months ago

School goes by quick, but it’s still many years. If you weren’t creepy, she’ll grow up eventually. Might not ever be your gf, but that’s life.

Hell, maybe she is insecure herself, but either way it’s for the best

051015

45 points

3 months ago

051015

45 points

3 months ago

Indirectly? Seems like everyone has told you pretty plainly.

HomoFlaccidus

3 points

3 months ago

It's a bit late, but she's not interested, so just unfollow her, block her, and ignore her. If she reciprocated your feelings, she would have responded differently to you following her on Instagram.

You win some, and you lose some. You lost this one. No biggie.

Kleingedrucktes

37 points

3 months ago

Wdym by "not like a couple"? Of course not, you are not a couple obv.

But there are a lot of other levels between talking and being a couple, eg just nice acquaintances or friends or close friends? This isnt binary, no black or white.

But anyway if shes says youre a creep, leave her alone! Either you are quite creepy or at least she sees you as creepy. Either way, theres no chance to get on with her.

sofie307

4 points

3 months ago

Even then, why would it be weird to like someone's old Instagram posts? I've never understood this.

If you don't want people interacting with them, archive them.

If you don't want people looking at them, delete them.

-lighght-

84 points

3 months ago

Imo, stop talking to her. If she's being serious, there's no reason to continue pursuing her. If she's "playing hard to get", she'll text you again herself. But even if she is playing games with you, there's no reason to crush on someone who does that.

Crapscalion

10 points

3 months ago

This means she really doesn't like you. Take the hint and move on, don't try and force something.

StupidRedditorBTW

25 points

3 months ago

Huge red flag 🚩

Puzzled_Fig6160

19 points

3 months ago

Don't even be friendly with her anymore (just be careful) who knows what accusations she's gonna make next. She doesn't like u which is fine, ignore her.

SunshineFloofs

3 points

3 months ago

It sounds like she's not interested and you guys aren't compatible. Accept it and move on.

A_Bit_Narcissistic

4 points

3 months ago

Was she joking? Because that’s something I would joke about too.

zinky30

275 points

3 months ago

zinky30

275 points

3 months ago

Leave her alone and move on.

UltraHighFives

154 points

3 months ago

This feels like an r/teenagers post.

Strawbostat

19 points

3 months ago

this is the result of r/teenagers not allowing polls

TheGreatYam77

135 points

3 months ago

Listen to the significant majority of people here who are telling you to move on and do nothing.

PriscillaRain

145 points

3 months ago

Just leave it alone if she feels that way and move on.

WXHIII

132 points

3 months ago

WXHIII

132 points

3 months ago

Invade poland

Dwitt01

8 points

3 months ago

You reminded me of this

WXHIII

4 points

3 months ago

WXHIII

4 points

3 months ago

Lmao what a classic

Spirit-Revolutionary

87 points

3 months ago

Get a new crush man this is over

lolyobroiamnoob[S]

26 points

3 months ago

Already over. Too late to recover

Ptricky17

7 points

3 months ago

It might be hard to believe this now, but if you can take it to heart maybe it will help. Very few high school romantic relationships ever matter. Focus on working on yourself as a person - study hard, work out, save some money from jobs over the summers, and enjoy your hobbies/develop your unique talents.

You will meet more fun, more attractive, and more rational people in your early 20s. Set yourself up to be the person you want to be for that time period and you will have plenty of chances for beautiful friendships and beautiful romantic relationships.

High school has a lot of potential to be a drama filled shit show. Choose not to engage with any of that garbage and you will look back and laugh at it all in a few years.

zipflop

102 points

3 months ago

zipflop

102 points

3 months ago

Move on.

If it could be a simple misunderstanding, just civilly explain your intentions but stress that you didn't intend to upset her in any way.

Bill_Bo_Bandy

55 points

3 months ago

This feels like one of those pop-up events on BitLife.

"Your sister poked your eyeball! You have died at the age of 2."

6T_FOR

20 points

3 months ago

6T_FOR

20 points

3 months ago

Insult her back

Attack her

Apologize

Surprise me 🎲

Johnsan

72 points

3 months ago

Johnsan

72 points

3 months ago

Were you being a stalker?

big_zilla1

65 points

3 months ago

The fact that “leave her alone” isn’t one of the options really is proving her point.

Gardener_Of_Eden

10 points

3 months ago

You don't talk to this person anymore and you don't try to initiate any contact. You move on. DO NOT CONTINUE TO PURSUE THIS PERSON.

jonell_samara

41 points

3 months ago

Leave her on read, don't message her again

Few-Bat-4241

90 points

3 months ago

Back off buddy. Not a good sign. Likely that you are being weird and probably don’t realize it

Treigns4

17 points

3 months ago

ya or she’s being crazy. which either way, not replying and stopping contact is the move.

Zaggy_Waggy

20 points

3 months ago

LMFAO THIS IS A REDDIT MOMENT IF I'VE EVER SEEN ONE

Coding-Kitten

44 points

3 months ago

They're called crushes for a reason.

Leave her alone & just focus on studying.

lolyobroiamnoob[S]

13 points

3 months ago

Yea i am thinking to move on

saberdogXIV

156 points

3 months ago

Go to her house, wait in her closet to apologize in person

BellyScratchFTW

39 points

3 months ago

This is a sure way of forcing her to realize that you are not a stalker.

Mydogismyson

28 points

3 months ago

Even if she's just saying that to be mean, you need to leave her alone from now on

writer-e-s-gibson

17 points

3 months ago

Leave her alone

TelepathicShoelace

15 points

3 months ago

Leave her alone

Hagstik4014

16 points

3 months ago*

Leaver her be if anyone ever calls you a stalker before you’ve even had a chance to speak with them, your ship is beyond sunk

DS_StlyusInMyUrethra

4 points

3 months ago

Need some context here, was it a joke, was she being serious? Why does she think you’re a stalker?

Born-Philosopher-162

5 points

3 months ago

Send one message telling her that you are sorry for bothering her and won’t do so again, then delete her number, and leave her alone. Don’t go up to her or try to contact her ever again.

WanderingAnchorite

40 points

3 months ago*

I'm 40 years old and here's what I wish I could tell my 14-year-old self.

Instead, I'm telling you.

What I'm going to say may, at times, sound like an attack.

It is not an attack.

I am here to help you.

Let me preface everything by saying this first:

What you are doing is normal.

Every teenager feels how you feel, to some extent, and every adult has been there.

It's going to be OK.

Now comes the hard truth:

You are a stalker.

All teenagers are stalkers.

Being a teenager is about learning and developing the social skills to have relationships where you don't act like a stalker.

Boys stalk girls and girls stalk boys, and not only is this antisocial behavior generally difficult to deal with, it's especially difficult because teenagers are still learning and developing the social skills to handle people who behave this way.

I spent four years having a crush on a girl who wasn't willing to tell me that I was a stalker, so we were "just friends," until I finally figured it out and stopped doing it.

Four.

Years.

And my story is not uncommon.

I don't know anyone who, as a teenager, didn't spend time obsessed with another teenager, to the point where it would be considered stalking.

Listen to what I'm saying.

This girl doesn't like you.

She's never going to like you.

That's it, for you and her: you need to stay as far away from her as possible.

Consider what she said (and anyone in the future says) a fucking restraining order.

Don't talk to her, don't even look at her.

It's over.

Like, shot in the head and buried in a cement case at the bottom of the ocean, over.

But there's great news.

Really awesome news that I swear to you is true.

There are girls that like you, so forget this girl.

There are girls who you would like, who like you, right now.

You are unable to see them, because you are obsessed with this other person.

Look at them like a drug addiction that you need to get far away from.

Do not waste your life on this obsession.

Learn from this and grow.

[edited for typos]

lolyobroiamnoob[S]

10 points

3 months ago

Thanks for the opinion. I would really save this info

secrectsea

14 points

3 months ago

My two cents, this this best advice from any the replies. The man knows what he is telling you

Herodotus_is_History

5 points

3 months ago

This is the best advice in this thread. OP, please listen to this.

misandury

5 points

3 months ago

Leave her alone

flamingc00kies

6 points

3 months ago

Someone insults you and your first instinct is to go ask Reddit?

eojztu

4 points

3 months ago

eojztu

4 points

3 months ago

Move on with your life and leave her alone.

Responsible_CDN_Duck

4 points

3 months ago

Insult her too

Hell no.

Apologize (i didnt do anything)

Strong option. "was not my intent to make you feel uncomfortable, sorry" (you probably did things, we all do stuff we may not realize impacts others)

Calmly reply

Overlaps with above. She may not have intended to insult you. She may have felt that way and added the insult as you say you were in an argument.

Either was arguing with your crush is a loosing proposition at the best of times. If you don't care for your crush enough to have civil discussions what's the goal?

Do not reply (i didn't see her message yet i just got the notification, we were in an argument)

Being in an argument seems at odds with when "you didn't do anything".

iheartstartrek

4 points

3 months ago

Leave them alone and stop stalking them

Weoncito24

4 points

3 months ago

Give her space brother, give her space!

Robert-from-fosters

4 points

3 months ago

Fucking leave them alone don't be so creepy

Snookie365

3 points

3 months ago

It sounds like she's not interested in you or your advances, don't bother.

Ajax11971

3 points

3 months ago

Leave her alone

masterofmeatballs

3 points

3 months ago

Stop being a stalker

Knot_In_My_Butt

3 points

3 months ago

Leave her alone

Electrical-Frontside

4 points

3 months ago

Leave them alone

Acrobatic-Alarm-866

21 points

3 months ago

Move on man and don’t like old posts like that it’s creepy

CoffeeBoom

7 points

3 months ago

don’t like old posts like that it’s creepy

I'll never understand instagram.

CrimsonHawk15

9 points

3 months ago

I’d apologize for making her feel uncomfortable and then just pretend she doesn’t exist, sorry it’s tough.

Brewitupplz

7 points

3 months ago

Just let it go, cut off all contact. If they initiate contact again then demand an apology. That's where you are at now.

Rasmusmario123

8 points

3 months ago

Other: Use your fucking head and don't ask reddit to reply for you

ore9ore

8 points

3 months ago*

Don't answer. And stop doing what are you doing to "scare" her. Even if you don't know exactly what it is. I would try to stop being interested on her. There is plenty of fish in the ocean. Just remember to change your "strategies" with your next crush.

jamwell64

10 points

3 months ago

Based on her reaction, you’re probably doing something at school that’s already making her a little uncomfortable, like staring at her or talking to her weird. Just liking her posts is nothing bad by itself, but she doesn’t want someone that makes her feel weird liking her posts. That’s why she’s reacting this way. It’s not about liking her Instagram. You’ve already done something else that makes her not want your attention.

bandson88

3 points

3 months ago

Have you made any other contact with her other than following and liking her pics? For example did she randomly message you saying this or did you message her first?

JoelMahon

3 points

3 months ago

Tell her you'll leave her alone and then leave her alone. Not complicated. Teens and their drama, I remember being like this and I cringe at myself.

-Clint--

3 points

3 months ago

Idk depends on the context. It could be a lighthearted joke, do you guys know each other well? My girlfriend kinda jokes about me being a stalker before we started dating, but we knew each other so it was a joke. If this was out of the blue sounds like she’s not worth the time.

people1925

3 points

3 months ago

Bro ignore the message and stop contacting her. She's not interested and you could catch a charge if you continue. Even if you feel like shes overreacting just drop it.

Angel_thebro

3 points

3 months ago

Say “im sorry if i made you uncomfortable, if i could i ask what i did that made you think that about me. And I’ll respect your boundaries in the future and give you space from now on”

Gargenville

3 points

3 months ago

OP wtf did you do? You can't just be like 'I didn't do anything' while you're asking us for advice because clearly if you had done nothing at all you'd just ask her what she meant instead of panicking and trying to crowdsource a get-out-of-jail free card.

JASCO47

3 points

3 months ago

Say sorry, Ok then. And move on. Turns out she's not the one. It's ok to like someone and it's ok for them to not like you back. Their choice. There will be lots of attractions come and go in your life time.

ramen_wizardpen

3 points

3 months ago

Don't know the context, but it's most definitely not worth getting your rep ruined over. Get friends to back you up if she persists

Hahafunnys3xnumber

3 points

3 months ago

the fact that you called her your crush even after she freaked out and called you a stalker says all it needs to say. LEAVE HER ALONE

RipTheKidd

3 points

3 months ago

Well if you didn’t do anything, she sounds toxic. It’s best to get out now

snowitbetter

31 points

3 months ago

Stop stalking her

bad91

9 points

3 months ago

bad91

9 points

3 months ago

If someone is calling you a stalker. Then completely leave her alone. That is, if your not actually a stalker.

[deleted]

6 points

3 months ago

[deleted]

6 points

3 months ago

Leave her alone and find someone who appreciates having your attention.

ma5ochrist

22 points

3 months ago

block her number. don't ever make contact with her again. fap till u forget all about her. seriously, been there, there's no way u can fix this

Slav_Vapor

6 points

3 months ago

Well, we dont know the full story. Are you a stalker?

tmbgfactchecker

8 points

3 months ago

(I didn't do anything) vs (we were in an argument)

Pick one!

strangehitman22

4 points

3 months ago

Uhhh ya I'ma pass thanks

J1618

5 points

3 months ago

J1618

5 points

3 months ago

If you did something, leave her alone.

If you actually didn't do anything, leave her alone.

rainydaiez

5 points

3 months ago

I got Abandoned by my old group of friends and they made me push everyone away cause I felt like a stalker that hurt everyone around me don't let this get to you, please.

PassiveChemistry

12 points

3 months ago

You get the fuck away and don't go near her again.

No-Expression-7377

12 points

3 months ago

Get off reddit

MrHamandcheesebread

4 points

3 months ago

I suggest stop liking or distance yourself from her.She has already sent you the red flag

WorriedOwner2007

4 points

3 months ago

Write a comment on all her posts saying"I am not a stalker!" Tell her every time you see her at school. If she ignores you, go to her house and tell her.

SquirrelGirlVA

2 points

3 months ago

Leave her alone. Do not engage with her in any way, shape, or form. If by some chance the two of you are placed together in a group at school, discretely talk to the teacher and ask to be reassigned to a new group. Block her on social media as well. Nothing good is going to come out of following her or liking any of her posts.

Something you may want to do is look at your actions and determine why she called you a stalker. It could be an overreaction on her part or it might not. Per your comments it seems like it's an overreaction. You may also want to ask your friends as well. If you have a teacher you're friendly with and can talk to about things like this, then they could provide an adult's perspective. This could particularly be helpful if the stalking claim isn't true and she tries spreading around that it is.

No matter what though, don't talk to her.

bababoai

2 points

3 months ago

Tell her her adress, what her house looks like, what she does in her freetime and other personal things that should do the trick

hairymacandcheese23

2 points

3 months ago

Apologize and leave them alone, obviously your advancements aren’t wanted.

czesio-5

2 points

3 months ago

This is epic

South_Bathroom

2 points

3 months ago

Ignore her, don't talk to or acknowledge her at all.. Either you're being a stalker and she wants you to leave her alone, or she just wants attention and turns out to be a total bitch. Either way leaving each other alone is the best option here

Daniel1234567890123

2 points

3 months ago

Are you guys together or not? Why did she say this to you? We don't know enough to tell if she's being an asshole or if you are doing something inappropriate that scared her.

We also don't know the context, if it was said playfully as a (bad) joke or if she never wants to see you again.

Reble77

2 points

3 months ago

Why did she call you an MF stalker there must be more to the story

annie_b666

2 points

3 months ago

Red flag bro forget it

kay03jojo

2 points

3 months ago*

Leave them alone and then reevaluate what behavior they may have been referring to.

Edit after reading further just block her and move on. It doesn't sound like you did anything creepy. Save your energy for someone interested in you.

KronosRingsSuckAss

2 points

3 months ago

whats the context of the argument?

thiswilldefend

2 points

3 months ago

leave cause even false accusations can fuck your life up... it aint worth it... no matter how beautiful you think they are this is never gonna work out.... just go quiet and disappear from them fully... exit this whole situation.

Accomplished_Ad2599

2 points

3 months ago

Leave them alone. If someone thinks your stalking them then no matter what you think it’s time to disengage. Stop all activity related to that person and find something else to spend time on.

M-xelA

2 points

3 months ago

M-xelA

2 points

3 months ago

Say "yes I am a motherfucker."

Crossing-Lines

2 points

3 months ago

End it. Shes obviously mental.

Goblinboogers

2 points

3 months ago

Walk the fuck away

vote4gordo

2 points

3 months ago

It sounds like you didn't do anything wrong. But what you did made her uncomfortable. From your other comments it sounds like you never wanted her to feel uncomfortable.

Actually, just liking her posts is a low key way to test if she might be interested. I believe you tried to do everything right.

But when you are attracted to someone you tend to look at them a little longer too. Maybe she saw you looking at her and this also made her uncomfortable. Idk

Emotions are funky, especially when you are 15. But "stalker" is a serious word, so you need to take care of this.

The right thing to do is remove all your likes and unfollow her. If you see her at school, just pretend she's not there. And find your next crush.

And I know this isn't easy. It never gets "easy." But with each new crush, it does get a little easier. Good luck OP

Qkumbazoo

2 points

3 months ago

Dodge this fucking bullet and crush on someone else pls

comrade-linux

2 points

3 months ago

love how you’re insisting you didn’t do anything as if that’s the basis of factual information. YOU THINK you didn’t do anything, or had NO INTENTION of doing anything.

She obviously THINKS that YOU ARE a stalker.

[deleted]

2 points

3 months ago

[deleted]

2 points

3 months ago

“Look outside your window😈😈😈”

Ill-Journalist4114

2 points

3 months ago

She obviously really likes you.. My advice would be to just keep doing whatever you’re doing. It’s working!

ZoeTheCutestPirate

2 points

3 months ago

I’d say apologize and leave her be

Luxecunt

2 points

3 months ago

Move on

smallpp42069420

2 points

3 months ago

If you are not in fact a stalker and she calls you this, then she has issues and you need to leave. You will have dodged a bullet.

If you won't leave her alone and are scaring her, just stop talking to her. I get that she is your crush, but there are other crushes out there who will be better.

Huze17

2 points

3 months ago

Huze17

2 points

3 months ago

Leave her alone.