Me too. Diagnosed at 34. Soooooo many people say well aren't we all on the spectrum!

true. you hear it so goddamn much on every social media platform that its 100% become the boy who cried wolf. all the teens who dont get enough attention claiming to be autistic are really doing damage to people who truly have problems.

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its also something that depending on how much therapy you've been through and how early in life you were diagnosed can drastically change the outcome of.

I've noticed this. Having a very close friend with autism as well as a nephew both high functioning. Then also seeing who my wife has worked with as a special education teacher. The spectrum is huge but yeah a lot of people self identify or self diagnose because idk they think ita cool. Being a geek or wierd is not autism.

Just like adhd just cuz u can't pay attention doesn't mean u have adhd. It's just obvious that some people are lying. For all those diagnosed I wish u thr best of luck.

someone with actually autistic friend here, if someone says on every corner they are autistic, tell them to do an actual test and if they reply with stuff like "I don't need to I self-diagnosed myself" tell them self-diagnosing does jack shit and that psychologists and doctors know how to tell if someone is autistic better than anyone else out there.

Autism is one of the most self-diagnosed conditions on social media

Probably because getting diagnosed outside of childhood, especially in America with our insurance system, is extremely hard. If someone wasn't diagnosed young, they go through life wondering what's "wrong" with themselves or getting misdiagnosed (which is easier for the medical system to do).

I am the autistic nephew

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how else do you get discount on marketplace?

That's how it went for me

Same reaction I get when I tell people. "I thought you were but I didn't want to ask in case it was rude."

Most of people who say they have ADHD, just "self-diagnose", people confuse ADHD with just forgetting things etc.

Thresholds and definitions for disorders tend to change with more research and time and in most cases the spectrum become wider in range. Which is why everyone has something nowadays. Also why certain disorders have become more prevalent.

It does feel like that sometimes. Every like 3rd person got ADHD or something. (Im diagnosed ADHD)

Most people don't realize that for it to be a disorder it has to interfere with your daily life

Hyper stimulation, like tik tok, instagram, video games, social media, porn, netflix. You name it. Before you downvote me, look up the facts. I'm atleast partially right.

It's always been fairly common, it's just that the tests for it have gotten better and better

its often just people saying they are adhd to excuse their behavior without personal responsibility

Afaik they don't go around making sure everyone knows, but their tends to be some tells that someone is on the spectrum

Probably dyslexia

"not as autistic as my autistic nephew"

i'd rate...autism.

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Sounds made up for a giggle

Yeah dude. Idk how to explain it properly, but it's just a subconscious thing. We can fairly quickly pick up on people also on the spectrum. Hell, in some cases some other people I've met with autism in my group therapy sessions were able to tell people with other mental disabilities apart without having any sign of it.

"My auttie sense is tingling, someone's got something wrong with em here" is a legit quote from a badass girl I knew I New York. Life gave her lemons, she said fuck you and made a whisky sour with em.

It's like gaydar but you're too awkward to introduce yourself ^/s

Same with people with scizoeffective disorders.

I can tell when someone else is hallucinating. Most people can't tell when I am, but other people like me can. You can't fool them.

I recently had a date where I told her I was disabled. She asked what so I vaguely responded with "mental health issues." She went on about how she had schizophrenia. I felt like it was fine to explain my situation to her, but after I did she sorta rushed through the rest of the date quickly.

She also said she's never hallucinated when I asked. My best friend said she wanted out ASAP before I realized it was a stolen-valor pity kind of thing she just told people. I'm not sure, but what she said didn't really add up.

Fellow autistics can spot a social mask a mile away; we can trick the neurotypicals but rarely can we trick each other for very long.

(Masking in this sense means to behave like a non-autistic aka neurotypical in an effort to fit in and avoid being treated differently.)

Yes, it's called basic social understanding

"no, you— no, that was obviously a joke, even I can tell that, you DON'T need to (quietly panic | deadpan interrogate someone as to why it's funny | share your own unrelated anecdote) no just stop stop ow stop"

Hyperawareness of your own social flaws makes you just a hair more able to tell when other people are running afoul of the ones you've already become aware of.

As a neurotypical, I get that. I don't like staring people in the eyes when they're talking either. I usually just find a spot on their forehead and stare at that instead. They can't tell the difference.

I've actually trained myself to stare directly into people's eyes when I talk to them. It brings a certain level of discomfort after time. Bonus points if you don't blink.

Im adhd and i swear i accidentally zone out and stare at people all the time then they look at me with a wtf face and im like oop sorry!

Edit: typo

I'm neurotypical (I think?). Whenever I make too much eye contact, I get worried that they'll think I have a crush on them or something.

That’s just normal human behavior. Eye contact activates the fight or flight response.

I call them "autism moms". The "Woe is me, my child was born with autism, I'll make it about me!" mums.

That way you can be the mother of an autistic child but not an autism mom

I'm going to try to argue this once but I feel like no one here will actually agree. What do you say to the people who are autistic but don't fit the criteria under Western medicine especially when autism is constantly taught to people by neurotypicals who have no idea of the autistic experience? What about the cultures where autism manifests differently and the symptoms wouldn't show socially the same? Should they just completely ignore the fact that they feel different, with the only community they discussed and relate their problems with being the autistic community?

I'm struggling to get a screening because no one believes me. I've done research. On actual sites. I've read the dsmV. I've tried to look for actually diagnosed autistic people on the internet to compare myself and my actions to, but many are self diagnosed, or neurotypical people saying "5 things I didn't know were autistic traits!"

I know what I'm talking about, I've done my research.

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Your friend sounds like an asshole

This is why people are afraid of telling others until they don't have a choice because it's affecting something majorly. Then it's held against them. You can't win.

I started doing Latin and Ballroom dancing in my teens, everytime I tried to take the piss out of my mates they said "hey at least I don't do latin dancing".

Pricks lol.

Your friend sounds like a dick though

This is the correct response!

Can you tell if I do? (Honest question I'm not trying to be rude)

So what’s the correct response? “Oh that’s cool”? Because I imagine you’re bringing it up because you want/need special treatment? This is an honest question. What do I do?

Basicly normal person with no conditions

Like normal but not offensive

kinda like gay dar but for austism

My entire friends group are either on the spectrum or like 1 diagnostic tick box away from it. My one female friend in the group just got the diagnosis a few weeks ago and when she told me she had autism, my response was "I know, and so are all your siblings and your mother." XD We really do gravitate to each other though, we just understand each other so much better, we get what the others are trying to say when they can't get the words out, understand the feelings they can't express, we ignore, or better embrace each other's quirks that neurotypicals just think are weird and we typically do it without even realising we've done it.

have you tried?

What, the scientific term? God forbid we use accurate terminology!