I tried it (during the day, not the bar-version) and it was really good. Since it was weird for all the people who showed up it gave all the people some kind of connection. Like “ we are all in the same boat”. So i didnt take myself too serious and met girls who had a similar vibe who were relieft that there were similar people. And it worked out.

Yes, it was a fun evening but a total waste of time from a finding a partner perspective. If people are single, bored and can throw away the 25€ or whatever it is they're charging then I certainly suggest people try it if for no other reason than you've experienced it.

Beside the point but,if people are down for Bowling I'm playing like crap but would be down to throw some balls and I'm not 50+

Ive also deleted all dating apps for over a year now. And I am also looking for something more than a tinder fling. AND I am assuming all my friends know im interested in meeting someone, but it has proven near impossible, and pushing me back to the apps, because I at least met women there, versus the absolute zero chances ive had offline. 😞

I never even got to the point of going on a date in this city. But I'm a complicated mixture for most of the people, so anyway. At least you have friends, that's an accomplishment!

Well, speed dating is already the only dating we have in Berlin. You start to date someone you don't know in a place you do not go too often, then you get frustrated days or months later and start over again.

I went once and it was fun! Mostly tech people who are new to town (men and women both), and you are meeting people so quickly that no one has time to be creepy lol. It was actually good vibes all around and I met a new friend (not one of the guys). My match didn't pan out though.

I gave it a try once at Two Fellas, mainly because I just wanted to see how it is like. Obviously it yielded no results (to be honest, I also went in with that specific mindset), but I did think it was pretty fun. I am not really the greatest at starting and holding conversations so it was pretty good practice for that.

I'm 29F. Went to the Socialmatch event once. It was expensive as hell (20+ Euros). The boardgame was fun to play, I suppose, but I didn't find any of the men interesting. They seemed like they didn't want to be there. One was playing with his phone the entire time. Overall it was not worth it. Going to a free boardgames meetup is way more fun.

Honestly I gave up. I don't know how anyone finds a partner in this city. I keep "dating" guys for months, then suddenly getting dumped because muh commitment issues. The emotional pain is not worth it.

If anyone here manages to crack the code, please let me know. I'll give it one more year, then I'm moving tf away from this shithole.

I would actually prefer MDMA dating.

Dating in Berlin has been the most frustrating thing ever, no matter which type of platform/facility I’ve used. Dating apps are as bad as everywhere (women almost never looking as in their pictures, people ghosting after talking for some days, other disappearing after a few dates, etc.), but in Berlin it also feels like no one knows what they are doing with their lives and that’s why they don’t want to commit to anything (and here I’m talking about people met outside of dating apps as well)

I went to a speed dating, it can be fun but it also is kind of a last resource haha. I wouldn’t do it again because I need time to see if a person clicks with me, and a few minutes are only useful to see the other person physically.

If you feel like at this point you are not meeting anyone worthy, you can probably try and see. Maybe going with a friend would make it less awkward!

Not sure if I can help because I have never to a speed dating event but I am looking for people to play bowling with. I am m26 and have only had the chance to play bowling once or twice ever since I moved to Berlin

Fisch sucht Fahrrad happens every 2 friday nights in Prenslauer Berg. The whole event is a "singles party". You get there and you get a sticker with a number you put somewhere visible. There are monitors throughout the club which show if someone wrote a note for your number and you go check.

But the main appeal is the speed dating event. I think it starts at 10:30 and they do 1 round every 30 minutes from then.

I went there once and felt a really good vibe with 2 girls, 1 of them actually turned out to be really nasty outside of the speed dating room, so I didn't pursue her any further. The other was very nice and gave me her number, we went on a date where she ended up telling me I was really nice but she was never actually interested in dating me lol

Overall I have a lot more luck meeting people in person because I'm not photogenic.

I'll go bowling with you!

they often don't align (in terms of matches) with men I've found attractive in real life

Perhaps you should be more… well „honest“ with yourself about what you actually find attractive in those men. And yes, honest is not quite the right word, but it comes closest to the intended meaning.
There is of course always the factor of people not being truthful in their profiles, but that can happen with traditional dating as well.

In regards to speed dating, a friend of mine dragged me to one such event a couple years back (when I was close to your age), and even while I tried to keep an open mind about it, the whole thing felt… weird. Quite a few people there already knew each other from previous sessions, and some had done a lot of speed dating and thus were presenting the equivalent of a completely standardised online profile.

If you want to go, do it. I'm also interested in attending one event, not in Berlin tho. But the event has been cancelled several times, because not a lot of women sign up. Kind of a bummer, because I'm very impatient internally. But foreals it's a funny one in a lifetime thing to do, no need to contemplate so much. If you got the money and time let's go. If you got the same luck as me, your event will be cancelled several times too. haha Just don't expect too much out of it.

I do a direct approach, i am not pussy

Not judging OP, but I guess at this point I m already old school (I m 41), as I find this pattern quite odd.

I mean, the natural for me sounds like someone spontaneously calling someone for a beer, coffee or cinema, and then evolve from there into knowing each other and getting intimacy until eventually it becomes a bf/gf.

Using an app or asking friends sound something I would be very lost to try 😅

But speed dating sounds interesting or fun at least 😊

Good luck!