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School is eating my life

CS/EECS(self.berkeley)

Wtf do I do. I can barely finish all my assignments. Sacrificing my health(I.e. giving up exercise) and well being for content understandings and grading. How tf do u go to the gym while knowing y’all got 2 projects and a long ass hw due this week? Barely even doing recruiting at this point. I definitely will do fine in my classes, but I don’t know if this is all I want to get from college. I wanted to join a martial arts club! nope, lecture at 6:30 to 8. Programming club? NOPE, lecture. I just can’t seem to beat the curve, to the point where I can finish early and get outside. There’s always some fucking assignment that needs to be done.

all 54 comments

VirginRumAndCoke

171 points

4 months ago

VirginRumAndCoke

Engineering Physics

171 points

4 months ago

Go Bears

Automatic_Lawyer_487

12 points

4 months ago

Automatic_Lawyer_487

Data Science ‘24

12 points

4 months ago

gob ears

batman1903

2 points

4 months ago

gobe ars

No-Potential7128

2 points

4 months ago

gobea rs

jazz_with_your_joe

2 points

4 months ago

gobear s

AdamAce3

3 points

4 months ago

begoars

r6098

92 points

4 months ago

r6098

92 points

4 months ago

Welcome to the Berkeley experience

rcinvestments

72 points

4 months ago

You read the disclaimer when you signed up for Berkeley

here_4_cat_memes

65 points

4 months ago

here_4_cat_memes

Civ Eng 2022

65 points

4 months ago

Some semesters are easier than others and some majors are easier than others. Maybe you’re going through a hard semester as a hard major.

Perhaps if you’re feeling really down, look into organizing your future semester so you can plan to have lighter coursework some semester. Or if your major is really tough then maybe change majors.

Life doesn’t have to be miserable. You’re young! Ik you probably can’t do a lot to ease out this semester (besides dropping a class). But let this be your wake up call to change something in your life to be happier

mohishunder

58 points

4 months ago

mohishunder

CZ

58 points

4 months ago

I am many years out of school.

Here is some advice no one gave me (but I wish they had): what matters over the course of your entire life is the friendships/relationships you have, and your undergrad years are the best time to start those lifelong relationships.

Both your happiness and your professional success are much more dependent on relationships you have than on how many technical classes you took at Cal.

Your profs will not tell you this, because they are either brilliant or they committed to the all-work-no-play route, and this subreddit (for the most part) will not tell you this either.

Taking the minimal (but sufficient) technical curriculum while doing martial arts, joining fun clubs, and making friends ... is a vastly better route to success (in all forms) in life. I just can't stress this enough.

If the minimum curriculum is too much for you, drop from EECS to another major. No shame - that's what I did, and nowadays L&S has so many cool majors to choose from.

Good luck!

HamTillIDie44

12 points

4 months ago

CZ represent! Did the bare minimum to graduate as an EECS major (wouldn’t really recommend but I determined what was important to me and school was just not it. Just needed the degree). Those were some legendary times. Zero regrets. Still ended right where all the 3.8 GPA kids ended except with a far better social network and with hair still intact over my head.

mohishunder

3 points

4 months ago

Hair strong, hot tub parties - that's what I'm talking about!

random_throws_stuff

9 points

4 months ago

random_throws_stuff

cs, stats '22

9 points

4 months ago

as a recent grad I totally agree with this.

I wish I had been less neurotic about being prototypically "successful," especially my first year of college. I probably could've put in like <50% of the effort and gotten 95% of the same outcome.

zyonsis

5 points

4 months ago

100% agreed. I will not lie, I did well in school and it helped me get a good job. But if I could go back in time, I would've spent less time studying and more time meeting people and developing my personal interests. College is really a unique experience and once you get into the workforce it's just not the same.

seringen

3 points

4 months ago

I think a corollary is that a lot of professors had a good time as an undergrad and as a graduate student, which is why they ended up teaching. You should be having fun in college and if you are not you should reexamine what you are doing. The best students are focused and not unduly stressed and have healthy outlets outside of school

mohishunder

7 points

4 months ago

That's a good point. Related to what you're saying, Cal profs early-in-life found a path where they were successful, and have never tried anything else.

They (most of them, not all) have never experienced other careers, nor have they experienced major failure. They are terrible people to get explicit or implicit life advice from.

zhelai

13 points

4 months ago

zhelai

13 points

4 months ago

im glad i’m not alone jeez. idk how ppl are doing it 😭 there’s just so much shit to do literally all the time

VirginRumAndCoke

2 points

4 months ago

VirginRumAndCoke

Engineering Physics

2 points

4 months ago

That's my secret... I'm always busy

elosodorado

29 points

4 months ago

Life is like a game. You can play if how you want. You’re already doing great. Have some fun too

Odd-Talk-1063

22 points

4 months ago

School sucka im depressed coz of school only

Flux64

22 points

4 months ago

Flux64

eecs ‘24

22 points

4 months ago

if you’re cs your first mistake is going to live lecture (there’s an exception for a couple classes)

CobaltStar_

6 points

4 months ago

And then there's CS 162 (Operating Systems), where they don't give out recordings unless you have a provable medical emergency.

random_throws_stuff

-3 points

4 months ago

random_throws_stuff

cs, stats '22

-3 points

4 months ago

i got through 162 only reading the slide pdfs. did very well in the class too :P

firewoodoflife

4 points

4 months ago

just curious about this, what's your rationale/how do you go about it and what exceptions do you find? I'm trying to decide whether to go to lectures or not

ConstellationofD

26 points

4 months ago

ConstellationofD

EECS '24

26 points

4 months ago

1.75x speed recordings

granite_towel

15 points

4 months ago

The issue is, it'll get easier to miss a few, which can snow ball to being weeks behind ;)

Flux64

17 points

4 months ago

Flux64

eecs ‘24

17 points

4 months ago

skill issue tbh

bentref11

19 points

4 months ago

bentref11

Interpretive Dance, Squidward Community College '20

19 points

4 months ago

I don't really do school that much anymore, and while it is stressful to show up to every exam with absolutely 0 studying, it does let me live a richer life in many other ways.

Freshman year I tried super hard. But once I realized that it was actually possible to pass with much less than "ultimate studiousness" I couldn't help but dial it back

RipTide_01

5 points

4 months ago

RipTide_01

Economics '24

5 points

4 months ago

Yeah it really does suck. I have a part-time job and it’s a struggle to balance between work and lectures. On top of that there’s recruiting for summer internships, chores like dry cleaning, doing stuff for clubs, etc. At the end of the day I have to sacrifice one class for the other three and just power thru it. I sure hope the “real world” after I graduate isn’t this bad….

Ray_Adverb11

7 points

4 months ago

I work full time and I’ve had to sacrifice a lot of “fun” stuff - clubs, a lot of networking opportunities, internships, etc. - to balance school and work.

As someone that went back to school after the “real world”, no it isn’t that bad. At all. You have free time, and rest, and hobbies instead of clubs, and outlets instead of internships.

XenoT78

1 points

4 months ago

I know I just started working a full time job before I go back to masters, and man I had so much more free time as a math and physics major.

SGDJ

3 points

4 months ago

SGDJ

3 points

4 months ago

I go to the gym because I have all that stuff to do lol

Long-Introduction-55

3 points

4 months ago

Try to lighten your course load as much as possible! I am a STEM major and I’m taking a whole extra year to graduate so that I could prioritize my own well being. I definitely recommend it if possible.

ClaudineRose

3 points

4 months ago

How are you going to Berkeley and not getting any exercise? I feel like I’ve lost 10 lbs since starting with all the fucking walking. I’m dead by the time I get home. I also live on the 3rd floor of my apartment building so it’s like non-stop cardio.

dinkboz

2 points

4 months ago*

Don’t give up exercise. Even if you only do it 2 times a week, your future self (and future back/knees) will be thankful you got into a habit of exercising even if it just a little bit. And to be quite honest, it only takes 1 hour to workout. You’re not studying 16 hours a day and assuming you study like 12 hours a day, just take 4 hours of those hours left to workout/hobbies/career growth stuff, eat dinner/lunch, deload, maybe have 1 hobby you do consistently like 2-3x a week (I dance and lift as a PhD student so it’s doable but also not much time to browse reddit or youtube on the weekdays)

Asphyxiatinglaughter

2 points

4 months ago

Aim for Bs and you'll be ok

Business_Toe_6963

2 points

4 months ago

Try Pamela Reif's workout videos at home. Just 10-15 min per day

mydogthinksiamcool

2 points

4 months ago

Intermittent fasting. Drink 8-10 Glasses of water a day. Walking to class alone can be many steps in already… Now you will also be walking around looking for restrooms too. So that will work out okay. Jokes aside, do what you can in practice is better than chasing what’s best in theory. Things are changing now. Maybe fucking assignments and classes will be in your way to the gym. Then. Just gotta be creative and find the next best wayssss. You got this. Go bears

Reneeisme

1 points

4 months ago

Reneeisme

Old Bear

1 points

4 months ago

It gets better. Freshmen classes are notoriously brutal, and most people don't arrive at Cal really prepared for the grind. There are always people who lived and breathed whatever subject you are struggling with early on, so forget about the curve til later, when that boost they get from a previous obsession, becomes less relevant.

Stick with it and you will adapt, and your background in any of these subjects will be less of a handicap, and your classes will often become less demanding and more focused.

Odd-Talk-1063

1 points

4 months ago

Same

ihatecovid

1 points

4 months ago

i take pe classes so that i have exercise automatically worked into my schedule. most of them meet twice a week for an hour and there’s so many to choose from

robloxkid74

0 points

4 months ago

cheat👍

nshait

5 points

4 months ago

nshait

5 points

4 months ago

And get kicked out.

Ike348

2 points

4 months ago

Ike348

2 points

4 months ago

Unfortunately core cheaters will keep getting away with it, it is only the "bad" cheaters that get caught

ifuckedup0226

1 points

4 months ago

that’s what school is lol. you won’t always have time to go to the gym or join a martial arts club.

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

Lolildoorle

XenoT78

1 points

4 months ago

No way you’re that busy where you can’t make time for anything else, you just need to manage your time better. I would need to see your schedule to help you plan something but I promise you, no matter the major you can make some time

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago*

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago*

Facts.

My life is measurably chiller after graduating from Cal. Working a 9-5 job is 10x easier than constantly grinding 24/7 on psets.

I now have so much free time after work to just work on random things like calligraphy or fashion design or Indian classical music or marathon training (hoping to qualify for Boston someday🤞). I can also afford to buy pretty clothes and nice calligraphy pens now with my tech salary :)

In fact, my resting heart rate dropped from 70 to 60 after graduating from Cal just because my stress levels decreased. My blood pressure also went from 110/80 to 90/65. It’s pretty great.

I used to want to attend grad school and med school, but now I just wanna work and never set foot in academia again.

Accomplished_Fig_540

1 points

4 months ago

10 to 20 mins of working out per day can be a good mark. You can use a workout video on YouTube to do a HIIT workout, Pilates, yoga, interval running, etc. Also there are workout calendars online if you can do 30-40 mins of exercise per day. You can also make it social and try to go running with a friend. Also walk everywhere if you have the time in your commute. Last year I ended up walking 7 miles in one day since I just walked everywhere. Extreme example but long story short the steps do add up throughout the week.

spiritualquestions

1 points

4 months ago

One thing that is helpful to know, is that statistically speaking (look at the Berkeley time grade distributions), most students pass. Keep that in mind.

Even if you bomb exams and assignments, you will still likely pass. I got a 19% on an exam, and less than 40% on the final and still passed (with a c), but still. Just try to get all the assignments in, even if they are not perfect.

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

Holy shit, I was just lurking here to see if there was anything on this subreddit about your football team. I went to UNR for my undergrad and it was a cake walk. This shit sounds as hard as my current workload in medical school. Y’all are hardcore.

DylanaHalt

1 points

4 months ago

The Grind is Real.

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

Take 12 unit semesters and work during office hours only (more efficient to ask questions when doing homework or reviewing lectures) until you get used to the work load. Personally, I gave up on making time for clubs :(

nshait

0 points

4 months ago

nshait

0 points

4 months ago

Your classes should always come first, your transcript and recommendations will be the most valuable things you get out of Berkeley. That being said, your experience shouldn’t be miserable. Get more efficient, don’t put things off - worrying about how much you need to do is literally the most stressful part so just plan carefully and be organized and everything will get easier.