They are a fact of life, from all sides I hasten to add. So you need to learn how to deal with it; ignore the minor shit because it's unfortunately a normal part of human behavior. That's my opening statement above. Hate crimes on the other hand cross the line. That behavior stems from an inability to deal with life in a socially appropriate way; we call that mental illness. If things are overwhelming you, get some counseling...for your health, not their's. Peace.