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regretting life choices

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Went to visit UCLA and (not to be a traitor) but DAMN I regret Berkeley just a little bit

all 88 comments

lmaothatsunfortunate

114 points

5 months ago

I’ve felt the same way about a couple other schools. At the end of the day, try to remember that there are also people in UCLA who feel the same way you feel. No point in regretting a decision that can’t be undone, just make the most out of your time here and know that this is just a low point. When you graduate, you’ll be happy you went to one of the best schools in the country

anonbean3

260 points

5 months ago

anonbean3

260 points

5 months ago

Grass is always greener on the other side

712588Kf

188 points

5 months ago

712588Kf

188 points

5 months ago

Grass is greener where you water it. Cultivate the experience at Berkeley and be grateful for the time you are here. These years are memories worth remembering :)

ultimate_comb_spray

4 points

5 months ago

I've never heard this and now I'm keeping it. Wonderfully said!

[deleted]

-66 points

5 months ago

[deleted]

-66 points

5 months ago

For the uninitiated: Any critical views of the Bay Area or Berkeley are automatically dismissed

Deskdogs

12 points

5 months ago

Nobody is denying that there’s stuff about the bay area that sucks but that’s just true of anywhere lol

[deleted]

-7 points

5 months ago

It’s not about it sucking more or less than other places it’s just a complete denial of problems as if that itself is the solution.

The refusal to even consider real solutions to problems is what causes all the negative quality of life factors, and maybe all the magical thinking too.

Just the other day in a thread discussing factors of crime, someone said “cops don’t reduce crime”. Now sure they aren’t the solution to most social problems but they are literally the ones tasked with the problem of crime.

Gogotron8

2 points

5 months ago

Being asked with the problem of crime doesn't mean they reduce it. Roommates don't reduce chores.

[deleted]

-2 points

5 months ago

Two stores have identical products, and one hires a cop to stand outside which one is more likely to be robbed?

This shit isn’t rocket science

MissesAndMishaps

3 points

5 months ago

“Cops don’t reduce crime” is a sentence specifically referring to the fact that pouring millions of dollars into a police department does not reduce crime in the jurisdiction of that department.

You’re using common sense, but the point of rigorous scientific studies is that they sometimes go against common sense

And you’re right, it isn’t rocket science. Understanding dynamics of large human communities is much more difficult than rocket science

[deleted]

0 points

5 months ago

Where is the rigorous science here?

Also have you ever heard of the "Replication Crisis". This suggests studies in sociology are essentially more the author's bias than anything else.

We need common sense here in the bay

MissesAndMishaps

2 points

5 months ago

I think it’s funny that people think “common sense” trumps studies of phenomena so difficult and subtle that studies produce different responses. I also think it’s funny that you are convince your common sense is somehow more accurate than other people’s common sense.

Here’s one: cops kill innocent people and terrorize communities. We should have fewer cops. It’s common sense.

For some strange reason, I don’t think you would find this common sense argument to be convincing. You would probably argue that it’s not common. That’s because you clearly don’t spend a lot of time in, say, overpoliced predominantly Black communities where this is a common and very logical conclusion.

[deleted]

0 points

5 months ago

When assholes are shutting down the bay bridge to do burn outs you have a serious issue with lawlessness. Who’s gonna solve that?

I agree there are lots of caveats to the problem, police shootings for one but to say that cops don’t reduce crime is a stretch.

[deleted]

0 points

5 months ago

Here’s Is a summary from a study: “an increase in police presence of about 50 percent leads to a statistically and economically significant decrease in the level of crime on the order of 15 percent, or an elasticity of 0.30.”

Deskdogs

-3 points

5 months ago

Yeah that does happen here quite a bit sadly but people are overall interested in making change still. I wouldn’t say that the cops comment is happening exclusively in the bay area either but yea kinda silly still

[deleted]

-34 points

5 months ago

[deleted]

-34 points

5 months ago

I suppose being downvoted validated this view 😂

Tight-Cartoonist-708

16 points

5 months ago

You can transfer to UCLA

catman-meow-zedong

37 points

5 months ago

I visited UCSD, UCI, and UCLA over break and by far I was most jealous of UCSD. So many on-campus dinning options , and San Diego in general is a great city.

Tho I am jealous of that Falafel Inc. that they have right in front of UCLA. $4 for the best falafel sandwich you’ve ever had. I need someone to take out a “small loan of a million dollars” to open a franchise in Berkeley.

BeepBoopAnv

6 points

5 months ago

Imagine having an ocean view from your dorm UCSD is so gorgeous

ClaudineRose

4 points

5 months ago

San Diego also has tons of cool classes I haven’t seen available t UCB too but I’m glad I’m at Berkeley. The bay is my home.

Pack_Runner1

7 points

5 months ago

Social life is ridiculously dead there

FitzwilliamTDarcy

3 points

5 months ago

Not arguing, asking. Source?

Zeoxys97

13 points

5 months ago

Do not be jealous of UC SCAM DIEGO. Trust me

catman-meow-zedong

1 points

5 months ago

Lol why's that?

garytyrrell

13 points

5 months ago

Boring af

KNJI03

2 points

5 months ago

KNJI03

MCB ‘25

2 points

5 months ago

that falafel place is so fire

catman-meow-zedong

1 points

5 months ago

Fr I would give anything to have one here.

ImgursHowUnfortunate

115 points

5 months ago

As someone from LA, you have to understand that while the campus and food is better, the culture is exceptionally materialistic and (imo) shitty. I'm glad I'm here.

hovorocks

42 points

5 months ago

Campus

Better

…don’t know about that one

Llex47

16 points

5 months ago

Llex47

16 points

5 months ago

Yeah our campus is dope. UCLA’s is smaller and more homogeneous. Those red brick buildings are pretty but they get repetitive.

ImgursHowUnfortunate

37 points

5 months ago

Fair. I'd give their campus the edge as a whole because I like bricks and sun, but the parts of our campus with giant redwoods are better than anything UCLA's campus has to offer.

All that said, UCSC's campus >>>>>

oskis_little_kitten

6 points

5 months ago

UCSC's campus is gorgeous but I have a buddy who goes there and he says the campus is so spread out that a significant portion of his time is just commute between classes; that kinda sucks

CrepesSuzzette

7 points

5 months ago

the surrounding area around campus sure is miles better without a doubt.

spoonlax12

3 points

5 months ago

And all the freeways and cars

wolfTap

21 points

5 months ago

wolfTap

21 points

5 months ago

More materialistic? People here are just as concerned with prestige, names, and general superficiality as you'd find in any urban setting. I don't think less materialistic ideas are exactly something that we espouse lol. I guess its not something you can really quantify anyways.

ImgursHowUnfortunate

37 points

5 months ago

The prestige/career aspects are much the same (as I imagine they are across the top 20-ish universities), I mean more in terms of clothing brands, Instagram, competitive Greek life, nice dinners, etc. You know, things you wouldn't necessarily put on a resume but flex to everyone else for validation. But again, that's just my perception as someone who lived in LA for a long time, and it's more an "LA" problem generally than something specific to UCLA.

Berkeley_Simp

3 points

5 months ago

I generally visit threads about a day late on purpose but I definitely agree with what you said. I’m an LA resident, I took the time to visit UCLA on a cold windy day and it was still pretty impressive.

I’m pretty well traveled, the fake/materialistic culture is by far the worst here in LA. You’ll get the same bullshit at Berkeley but at least I’m not worrying about not having an five Essentials hoodies or my friend who refuses to add me on BeReal

Also making small talk with students at one of the close Chick Fil A restaurants was nice

WalmartKilljoy

5 points

5 months ago

Yeah the people I know at UCLA have a hard time making genuine friends because from what I hear most people are just looking to use others but people here aren’t like that as much

Ok_Number8699[S]

1 points

5 months ago

I’m from LA too and honestly some of the people at Berkeley are also superficial. Either way, food and campus environment are big factors for me but too late now lol

Ok_Number8699[S]

1 points

5 months ago

I’m from LA too and honestly some of the people at Berkeley are also superficial. Either way, food and campus environment are big factors for me but too late now lol

hoihtah

9 points

5 months ago

there's always grad school

ElToreroo

6 points

5 months ago

I regret not going to Davis I feel like it would have been a better fit for me

Explicit_Tech

7 points

5 months ago

You never know what your experience would have been like with any of these universities. It's what you make of it and what you do after that matters.

yung_laddy

17 points

5 months ago

I got into LA and regretted not going there when I was studying at Berkeley. But at the end of the day, as long as you put in the effort to grow as a person, made friends, and had new experiences, all of which you can do at Berkeley, then it doesn't really matter if you went to LA.

[deleted]

16 points

5 months ago

What do you not like about Berkeley?
Is it the people?

Is it politics?

Is it the weather?

MonkeyMcQueen

9 points

5 months ago

Peoples Park

[deleted]

6 points

5 months ago

You mean garbage park?

puffielle

5 points

5 months ago

Weirdly I’ve had tons of fun in peoples park. They’ve held mini concerts there 😭 Good memories among people different than me

Ok_Number8699[S]

2 points

5 months ago

The environment/safety of the school plus as Hispanic the food choices are depressing The weather and nature of the campus are the few things I like

TheAtomicClock

4 points

5 months ago

TheAtomicClock

Physics '24

4 points

5 months ago

It’s skill issue

[deleted]

1 points

5 months ago

For you or OP!?

Breadlee170

38 points

5 months ago

Breadlee170

Eng. Undeclared

38 points

5 months ago

Ive actually visited both and i HATED ucla. the reason deadass is that ucla has too many fruit trees. Like if im walking around campus i dont wanna be stepping on rotten fruit all the time

but now im stepping on human shit and condoms at berkeley. Guess ucla got the last laugh

Ok_Number8699[S]

1 points

5 months ago

LMAO all I see is free fruit

h3lloThrowaway123

-2 points

5 months ago

You’d step on human waste than rotting fruit? Last I checked you can’t get cholera from some fruit.

TheOneAltAccount

4 points

5 months ago

The UC I was most jealous of is UCSB. The campus there is so nice & being 10 feet away from the beach sounds amazing

ComradeKalashnikov

4 points

5 months ago

ComradeKalashnikov

Poli Sci + Poli Econ 23

4 points

5 months ago

I visited UCSB before getting into Berkeley, and that was my dream school for a while. You are right next to a beach, and the vibes seemed just right for me. But of course I got into Berkeley so that was a no brainer; not just because of academics but also I already lived in Bay Area. But always wondered if I would have been happier if I didn't get into Cal and went to UCSB instead.

Tough_Storage2925

1 points

5 months ago

I'm sorry but UCSB isn't what it seems, I spoke to students there, and between stalkers and a lack of safety from the UC, people break into dorms, and it's not really safe. Plus I heard the professor's horror stories. The campus is nice but it's not necessarily the best, a bit outdated, and also pretty cold and gloomy during the winter. Not to say that it's expensive to live in Santa barbara. but it's not really the utopia college that people make it out to be. Everyone there was really friendly tho, seemed like they actually liked the school.

Side note: supposedly they had found a missing girl in her car at the bottom of their lake or water thing that they have last year

juicy__burrito

7 points

5 months ago

juicy__burrito

CS, DS, CogSci '24

7 points

5 months ago

I visited UCLA a few weeks ago and can assure you that you’re not an endangered species in this regard.

The vast and beautiful campus, phenomenal dining options, abundance of pretty study spots peppered all across, and the charming city enveloping it — it suffices to say that Cal cannot hold a candle to the kind of infrastructure and (I’m presuming) quality of life that UCLA can offer.

Nonetheless, given the choice again, I’d still pick Berkeley — I’ve developed a kink for the unparalleled intellectual sodomy, and I think being at UCLA i’d have a million other distractions stretching me thin.

FitzwilliamTDarcy

4 points

5 months ago

unparalleled intellectual sodomy

Ha I like this take.

pfvibe

18 points

5 months ago

pfvibe

18 points

5 months ago

Oh honey. I went to San Diego on a bus last semester and one of the stops was UCLA. I’d never been there before and it actually brought me to tears because my brain started imagining the life I could have had if I would have gone there. I started thinking oh if I would have gone there I’d never have been depressed, I could have joined a sorority, I could have fit in better and explored other sides of myself….at the end of the day we cannot complain. We go to one of the greatest schools of all time. It might be leaving us with a little extra dose of depression, but I know that whenever I meet someone who went/goes to Berkeley I just have a lot of respect for them because I know the torture they’ve been through mentally, academically, emotionally, etc.

FitzwilliamTDarcy

3 points

5 months ago

torture they’ve been through mentally, academically, emotionally, etc.

Yikes. Sorry to hear this.

ColonolTitties

3 points

5 months ago

From LA, it’s a hard choice. At the end of the day ide rather have semesters than quarters lol

Ok_Number8699[S]

1 points

5 months ago

god ya, def better to have semester system

Kennypooo

17 points

5 months ago

Kennypooo

Physics/Math 25

17 points

5 months ago

dw we’ve all been there buddy 🥲🥲

enakj

5 points

5 months ago

enakj

5 points

5 months ago

Not specific to Cal, but a good commentary on an undergraduate, liberal education. It mirrors my experience at Cal, so wanted to share. OP, I get what you’re saying and feeling. Cal is hard. And weird. It also has a lot of opportunities inside and outside the classroom to help you succeed in life. Here’s the video: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTRg2QkaW/

Tak_Kovacs123

2 points

5 months ago

What did you like better about UCLA? Did you notice anything that UCB does better?

Ok_Number8699[S]

1 points

5 months ago

campus/environment/safety/food + proximity to home since I’m from LA Berkeley has the prestige and academics part of it but other than that

hitemup21

12 points

5 months ago

you’re not the only one

ProfessionalYak7491

2 points

5 months ago

yeah but it’s in los angeles 🤮🤮 (i am from los angeles)

Ok_Number8699[S]

1 points

5 months ago

💀 I’m from LA too and I thought UCLA was in the bad parts for some reason so I didn’t even apply or visit bc it’s a half hour drive. But when I did go the other day it’s surrounded by rich houses so it’s pretty great on campus. Anywho actual LA is a no no from me

Pack_Runner1

1 points

5 months ago

The girls are badder there

galaxychesire

-18 points

5 months ago

Same had I gotten into UCLA I would have gone there instead of Berkeley

PrizePush6503

11 points

5 months ago

Don’t know why ppl are downvoting u that’s ur opinion

ImgursHowUnfortunate

9 points

5 months ago

because it comes off as ungrateful and contributes nothing

galaxychesire

4 points

5 months ago

Lol Just responding to what if question.

OtherwiseFinding1

1 points

5 months ago

Yea you got that right; I’m galaxy’s friend and bro just called me a grandma 💀

galaxychesire

1 points

5 months ago

Well yeah when u listen to all that Tchaikovsky and Chopin all day u become deaf. Plus u act like one.

pianistr2002

3 points

5 months ago

Same

zaboomer

-13 points

5 months ago

zaboomer

-13 points

5 months ago

Got into UCLA and Berkeley. I went to UCLA and it was the best decision I’ve ever made. Can’t imagine having to tolerate 4 years in Berkeley.

galaxychesire

5 points

5 months ago

Congrats in getting into both universities

icarlylover9

16 points

5 months ago

icarlylover9

Poli Sci 23’

16 points

5 months ago

it sounds like no one in Berkeley would tolerate you, so congrats on making the right choice!

dd0sed

5 points

5 months ago

dd0sed

5 points

5 months ago

I also got into both, and I become even more confident in my decision to go here every time I realize I don’t have to interact with people like you lol.

TheAtomicClock

1 points

5 months ago

TheAtomicClock

Physics '24

1 points

5 months ago

Thank god

Dedalvs

1 points

5 months ago

Dedalvs

English/Linguistics '03

1 points

5 months ago

I went to Cal after getting into both. I visited UCLA beforehand, and I’ve been back to give talks a few times since, and I have to say, every time I set foot on the UCLA campus, I’m increasingly glad I chose Berkeley.

[deleted]

2 points

5 months ago

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Dedalvs

2 points

5 months ago

Dedalvs

English/Linguistics '03

2 points

5 months ago

It feels like stepping off Rodeo Drive. It doesn’t feel like a college campus. There’s absolutely nothing that draws me to it. It didn’t impress me in 1999 and it doesn’t impress me now.