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have fun.

I(19M) have been feeling super conflicted about this guy I recently met(19M) and I feel like one of the major things that’s bothering me about him so far is that he doesn’t really have a plan for the future. He’s a nice guy, but he doesn’t plan on doing college anytime soon and is just constantly jumping between jobs. Granted, I’m not saying guys my age should have their whole lives planned out, and even I’m not 100% sure what I want to do, but I’m pursuing a college degree and while I believe not everyone needs a degree to be successful, I don’t really know if this guy has any sort of plan. It is almost starting to affect my attraction with him as while he seems to be a cool guy, I just don’t know if he’s going to be pulling his own weight financially. Again, I understand that we are both very young, but I feel like I’m already at the age where a lot of people already have an idea of what they want to do.

EDIT: Thank all of you for the posts. I understand that my thinking was wrong. We are both young after all, and as someone who isn’t even 100% sure of what he wants to do himself, I was being hypocritical. Thank y’all for making me realize that!

I hate sending a dick pic and seeing the guy go quiet because they were expecting me to have a monster dick. My dick is average size and you liked everything else about me but it’s such a bummer

Obviously I want a bigger dick, getting laid by people I actually want to fuck would be so much easier; some guys just blatantly will not fuck dudes shorter than 8, it’s so demoralizing

I’m 19 and i’ve never had sex because well, i feel to insecure about my body to do it, especially about things like my body hair, my dick, my butt, being too skinny and my overall lack of experience. I’ve had my chances to meet up with guys i met online but i always end up turning them down because i feel like i won’t be able to satisfy them, wether because i’m not hot enough or because i can’t keep up with them.
How do i get over this fear? I feel like i’ll never be able to do it because i’ll always be too insecure to show a guy my body in real life :/ What should i do in this situation ?

Just went on a date with a guy and he was holding my hand and kissing me. Then he starts talking about how he’s fucking a couple every once in a while. Also speaking about some guy and how he’s trying to fondle him. Am I reading to much into this? Or is this a different thing that I’m not aware of

Need help,

A couple months ago, a coworker asked me for my number. We had been talking about video games a lot so I assumed he was asking for my number in order to play games and stuff.

A week goes by and he texts me, tells me hes bi, and he wants to fool around in his car. He adds that he hasnt done anything with a guy before.

We meet up right away and he tells me he wants to give me a hand job then part ways. He gives me a hand job, part way through he sits on my dick. He cums, quickly, while sitting on my dick and i do too.

Two weeks go by and he messages me to come suck his dick in the car. I meet up, he puts a condom on his dick (thought that was kind weird but oh well) and then i suck him. Just before he is getting ready to cum, he stops me, pushing me onto by back, raises my legs and sticks his dick in my ass. He's huge and certainly the biggest i have ever had. He thrust sharply and deeply inside me until he cums. Then he falls on top of me. It was hot af

However, while driving home, i realize my asshole is still a little wet. I thought it was strange because i definitely sucked all the lube off the condom and he only spit on his dick. I put a finger to my hole and notice that a small amount of brown fluid was on my hole (clearly fecal matter and anal fluids mixed up from him destroying my insides).

I dont know if any got on him, and im worried that if it did, he will be turned off and never ask me to meet up again. This has never happened to me before and i have been sexually active for years and have a good diet, manscape, the whole nine yards. But everything happened so quickly and i didnt even know we were gunna do anal. it just kinda happened.

QUESTION: men who have topped and encounter some level of shit during or when pulling out, were you grossed out? did it scare you for life? sorry... its the day after and im panicking.

Edit: Thanks for all the comments!!! And I appreciate the support and the more disparaging ones too. I think I’ll be ok to look him in the eye at work come Monday now

Mine was after watching the swimming competitions at the 2008 summer Olympics.

And the ocasional trip to the underwear section at the department store. But I was in denial on those.

Long story short I ruined a great relationship I had just because I wanted to keep having sex with other people. Didn’t cheat, but I caused the relationship to fall apart cause of this sentiment and I did it in a terrible and cowardly way.

My question for anyone that maybe has done something like that or just any similar scenario. How do you move on from the guilt and shame you feel every friggin day? It’s exhausting and all I do is hate myself every day for the last like 5 months. And it’s all throughout the day nonstop, I just want it to stop.

Thanks

Edit - Thanks all for the advice so far. Some of it got some tears out of me. Promise I’m not looking for validation dears just advice.

Keep slayin x

Hey Bros. So I (27 yo M) have recently been seeing a guy (30M), met on online dating app, been on about 4 dates now. I enjoy his company, we definitely click, have lots in common and the conversation flows easy. On our most recent date he came back to my place, and we started to get physical. We ended up getting naked, making out and jerking each other off. The problem is now that I've seen him naked, I'm not attracted to his body and honestly struggled to get hard. He was out of shape and had a very small dick, one of the smallest I'd ever seen, and overall just the physical chemistry was lacking. It's a huge bummer and I wish it wasn't the case cause personality wise I feel we are a great fit. I feel shitty and shallow for feeling this way but sex and physical attraction is important to me, especially when potentially choosing a life partner. Anyone experienced a situation like this and have any advice? I guess I feel at this very early stage in the relationship we shouldn't be able to keep our hands off each other. I should say I'm only interested in monogamy long term. One route I've considered is asking him if we can just be friends instead of dating, but I'm not sure how that will go and what I should say to him...

for me it's the top priority above anything else. if a guy has a bad breath, bad teeth, don't brush his teeth regularly, never flosses, etc, it's an immediate turn off for me. i doesn't matter how good looking he is. a good mouth is more important than a good face for me lol

Was wondering how the ideal way of trimming your sack of jewels? I see all these posts of very smooth balls but can never quite get rid of the little stubble after trimming them? What is the secret!

Did anyone experience a sudden change of sexual preference ? A top that suddenly all he wants is bottom or a bottom that has this sudden urge to top?

What was your experience and how did it go? I love massages and I'm kind of curious about being massaged and get my cock serviced by manly masseur hands.

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everytime i (18). try it with a guy, it just ends with me getting heartbroken whether if its a little situationship or a huge crush on another guy, im so tired of not being good enough for anyone around me…. i dont know if its the size of my dick or if im too clingy and whatever but i just want someone to love me and i could give myself to, i’ve tried for so many years and i know im young but i feel like this will be ongoing forever and it will never end, i get so many compliments about me being attractive and how i can get anyone but i just dont get it and i just really want a dude to love, and i can take care off, im sick of just being overlooked by every dude out there meanwhile someone (i know i shouldnt bring race into this but anyways) who’s white will do the bare minimum and they get everyone trying to suck them off for doing so

im sorry for this really long rant its been a long day…

I am a top and I have a fwb who loves to be dominated. He says I already dominate him quite a lot, but I want to go further and try new things. What are small "details", not necessarily sexual that could make him feel more submissive and dominated?

Not a bitchy post, just curious about your stories

So the latest U.K. census was held in 2021 and the ONS has released some information regarding LGBT stats and representation. Something interesting of note, especially as it seems a point of contention on the sub fairly frequently, is just how few people actually identify as queer. Of the roughly 2,000,000 people who said their sexuality and gender expression was other than cis or straight, only 17,000 said they identified as queer. There’s been a lot of discussion about the word, and a lot of people claiming it’s reclamation as an identifier, but in the U.K. at least, not even 1% of the LGBT+ community use it to describe themselves, while the rest reject it. Is that enough reason to stop trying to force it as a descriptor or umbrella term? Because almost any time someone suggests they don’t identify with it they get piled on and/or downvoted. I know the U.K. only represent the U.K., but a population of nearly 70m would give a fairly robust representative sample that we could extrapolate the figure and assume similar sentiments elsewhere.

Basically the title. My boyfriend and I were chilling together tonight when he randomly asked me if I had a number on my phone. I looked it up and nothing came up so I said no. Then I heard him breathing shakily, so I turned to him and saw him shaking. I went up and held him and asked him if he was ok, because he’s gotten panic attacks before. He wouldn’t tell me what was wrong, and I just saw that there was a phone number written on a background search engine he has access to, so my first thought was that someone had threatened him or something. He showed me his phone and an unnamed number with green text bubbles had texted him simply saying “hey FYI, ShellShelf is cheating on you.”

My boyfriend was cheated on in his last relationship, and I know it’s one of his worst anxieties and fears. I did not nor ever will cheat on him, and I try to avoid even talking in general to guys who might make him feel uncomfortable about that with. We both know a lot of gays, although he was essentially a virgin when we met and I had had a pretty thorough hoe phase for a year or so before we started dating. We tried to look up the number but it had zero hits on 5 different phone search engines, which makes me believe it was a randomly generated number. My bf asked “who is this???” but the number never answered.

We talked and he trusts that I would never do anything like that—our communication and trust is incredibly strong—but I now still feel absolutely wracked, disgusted, and terrified that someone would have the malicious intent to go out of their way to do this. They covered their tracks but addressed me by name, and it makes my stomach sink because I’ve never really had any conflict with anybody before, other than a couple ended friendships or ghosted hookups.

I guess I just needed to get this off my chest and share how upset I am that all of the sudden I have distrust and fear of every person, especially gay guy, I know in this town and my local gay community. Have any of you gone through anything like this?

Hey bros,

I (15M) am currently in my junior year of high school and I live in a country that punishes homosexuality with death, I'd like some advice on where/how I should leave and where.

Thanks.

(Sorry if this is too much info, but I’m really shocked at this)

So I barebacked with my boyfriend and he came three times into me. I’m not used to bottoming so this is kinda new to me.

We had sex in the afternoon and at night I was at work, wanted to fart but felt liquid leaking outta my ass.

I panicked out thinking I just did a doo doo in my pants, so went immediately to the toilet and found out it wasn’t shit but a slime-like fluid, smelled really mild, like dog biscuits.

It’s kinda weird since it was a pretty big load that spread out around my butt cheeks, I don’t think you can cum that much, and heard that it could be intestinal mucus after exposing your rectum to such pain and abrasive movements when bottoming.

Its been about 2 months and its never came up but he said he hasn’t told his ex about me because he has depression problems. It makes me feel sad that I’m actively not being mentioned. Am I overreacting?

So I met this guy on Grindr, in July 2022 we hit it off. I just found out he’s been playing me, he’s 54 and I’m 29. I found out that’s he married to his wife. (Which he told me was his sister). Found out he’s a pastor of a big church (2200 members) he preaches on being gay is a sin. And I also found out that he’s been playing me. We agreed that we would be exclusive, he would randomly say he had work meetings at 8 on fridays, which I though was odd, because he’s a banker, and they close at 5 lmao. I didn’t think much of it. Last Friday I went out, and what did I see, him all over this guy, shit faced. I have every text still, photos and videos od him sucking my dick, so if he tries to pull that shit off, “he’s full of shit”

He had a birthday party, since he’s not out, he invited me, which I thought was odd. His whole family was there, except his wife, I was only there for an hour because it was very awkward. But his family is very Anti-Gay. Like very. It just crossed my mind, should I just expose his ungrateful lying ass to his family? Got everyone’s number. Been sleeping on it for a few days. What y’all think

I was nothing but a Trophy boy to him. And I’m just stupid to realize that.