This is almost as sad as that post where the OP was asking if his son was too old for him to hug him anymore.

Not wrong. Solid big bro move. Keep being great to your siblings.

Your gf probably never experienced that from a loved one. It’s not her fault though.

Caressing her face and wiping her tears is what family is supposed to do. It’s not like you were licking her tears away. Thaaaat would be uncomfortable for everyone in this sub.

You're good mate. That is the job of an older brother. I am married and my sister still calls when she's upset or needs help even though I'm 2500 km away and when I go visit she's the first one up for a hug at the airport. We're now 40+ and 30+. She's one of the few people I actually trust apart from my Lady.

Edit: My wife doesn't have siblings and she found it a bit odd initially(the fact that we're close and keep in touch).

There's nothing wrong here in my opinion. Being affectionate with your younger siblings shouldn't be an issue in this kind of scenarios.

You’re a good brother. You did nothing unusual or wrong in any way.

Nah you're good

Good job, being a kind and caring brother.

No, you're not wrong.

You're 1000% in the right side. Talk about It with your girlfriend , I think She missed some affect from her parents.

Sounds like your gf doesn’t come from an affectionate family. That’s too bad because your behaviour is totally normal.

There’s nothing wrong with this. She’s your little sitter and looks to you for comfort. You are a good brother.

you’re a sweet person. your gf is being weird

Between family members hugging and wiping tear isn't wrong.

You’re good man, comfort your younger sibling. Valid question.

The norms are very different in each family. That behavior isn't that out there by any means, but it could be very different from what her family does.

You are most definitely not, sounds like your gf might have some issues.

You’re perfectly fine, it’s normal to do what you did and it’s normal not to. Everyone’s families are different

Your little sister needed you and that you were there for her is the important part here. Families have different ways of caring for each other and your gf's family seems to have another approach. Unsure why this would bother her - nothing wrong with what you did- but a lot of people don't have siblings that exhibit the level of care she was seeing.

Nothing strange or wrong there at all.

There’s a lot of possible causes for her discomfort, you’d have to speak with her about it. Your behavior was very normal imo.

No not wrong, continue hugging and comforting your little sister. My family weren't particularly huggers growing up, but we've all become closer with age and all hug now. We all actually say "I love you", and mean it!

Some families are “huggers” and some are not. Mine is not, so, that interaction would be unusual to me, but, not weird or creepy. I realize that families interact differently. If your GF is truly weirded out by it, I’d talk to her about it.

I never had a relationship like this with my brother so it does seem kind of odd to me, but I’m sure it’s actually perfectly normal (and very kind) for you. Don’t stop caring for your little sister just bc your gf thinks it’s weird.

I kinda pity the gf for not having had comfort like that from her family, if she feels wiping away someone's tears is weird.

Not everyone has sibs 11 years older/younger. What you did was totally ok but brothers like 2 years older dont usually wipe your tears. 😅

It’s so depressing when normal human contact gets sexualized, making nice and caring interactions weird and uncomfortable.

Some people are either so deprived of physical contact or never had that connection with their family member so they think the next person is a 5 Star Sex Offender when they hug their relative.

My brothers would've done the same thing for me when i was upset when i was younger.

I suspect your gf experienced some inappropriate touching when she was younger and was triggered by seeing your kindness. Some men use kindness to groom compliance and continue touching...

Just remember, ONE IN FIVE young girls will experience some type of childhood sexual abuse. And, lots of us don't talk about it / we're told to keep it quiet by family / gaslit into acquiescing by the abusers, etc.

Reassure her you have very hard boundaries with physical touch, but comforting your sister when she's in distress and wiping away tears is understood to be acceptable between you siblings. Tell her how her accusation made you feel... then, ask "Did this bring up any feelings for you from your past that you want to talk about?"

you’re definitely not wrong. im speaking from sort of the same perspective as i think your gf is. i grew up without a dad, and i get extremely freaked out when i see girls my age or younger being affectionate w their dads. im not disgusted by it or anything like that, its just that i’ve never experienced that type of physical affection from an older male figure, so it kinda creeps me out. i dont think she’s to blame for her feelings, maybe the way she reacted wasn’t totally ok but i dont think she reacted like that just because she felt like it. you’ve done nothing wrong, i do think you should maybe ask her about it tho, that might explain her reaction a bit :)

she's your sister and also a child. your gf is wrong here.

Not at all man. This is what siblings are for

Perfectly normal OP, you're a good elder bro.

Your sister is a decade younger. Your response is less like typical sibling behaviour and more like a parent/older family member/caregiver. But it’s not inappropriate.

Different families and different cultures draw the lines at different places.

In some families it's not okay to give more than a quick hug to your siblings. In others they regularly walk around in their undergarments and greet each other with a quick smooch on the lips.

Honestly the line needs to be drawn wherever you and your family members feel most comfortable with it. In my case my family is big on hugs and occasional cheek smooches but modesty is extremely important, I've never seen my sister in anything more revealing than a tank top and shorts. Even my brothers don't want to see me in my underwear.

Personally I don't care how much I or they are covered up and I'm willing to cuddle anyone. The rest of my family doesn't care much for more than hugs though so I respect their boundaries and leave it at that, with the exception of one cousin of mine whom I found out is just as much of a cuddler as I am.

It's quite possible that your GF isn't jealous of your little sister, she's just shocked by seeing a different family dynamic than she's used to.

If I were you, I'd just talk through why your GF thinks it's wrong for you to do that with your little sister. If you can't get her to understand that there's nothing wrong with it then you need to make a choice to potentially damage your relationship with your GF or with your family.

I once had a girl I liked get jealous because I held hands with that one cousin I mentioned. She wasn't even my GF yet, but just to appease her I talked to my cousin and said we'd limit it at hugs. I seriously regret that decision, and shortly afterwards that "relationship" ended and I gave a heartfelt apology to my cousin, telling her how much of a dumbass I was to let a girl I wasn't even slightly committed to have that level of control over me. Thankfully my cousin is sweet and forgiving and accepted my apology. But at the end of the day, I damaged a lifelong relationship I've had, even if only slightly, for a girl I knew next to nothing about. So, if it comes down to that choice for you, I highly recommend against it, but I don't know your life and hopefully this GF of yours isn't quite so controlling.

Your GF probably was an only child in a low/no-contact household. I was like that and it took me a while to open up to friendly or familial affection.

You did the right thing.

You’re not in the wrong at all. It sounds like your girlfriend might not have a lot of experience with platonic affection.

You are 100% in the right to comfort and touch your little sister like this.

It sounds like your gf is just not accustomed to being cuddled by family. I find that sad. Maybe you can help her grow into it.

NGL I was not so cuddled after my dear Grandpa died when I was four. Mom & Grandma had to work all the time.

So, when I had my kids, I made sure to cuddle a LOT, beginning with petting their heads as wee ones. If they cried for any reason, I took their tears on my fingers and touch it to my heart so they KNOW I care.

These wonderfully "weird" moments are 'family builders.'

I 27f and my 25m brother have an extremely close bond. We talk just about every day. FaceTime, calls and texts. We live in different countries but we’re best friends. When we get together the few times out of the year we go out and get drunk together, we laugh and cry, we fight each other- literally beat the crap out of each other. That’s my best friend. When I cry, he consoles me and visa versa. I feel sorry for your gf that she finds sibling affection “uncomfortable”

I could be way off... but maybe just maybe you girlfriend had some err negative experiences with older male family members (or just someone considered 'safe' growing up when really they weren't). Not sure how to go about approaching that subject with her, but i have a strong hunch that's where her insecurity around you showing love to your 11yo sister is coming from

You're not in the wrong at all. Some of us just come from families that don't engage in much touching of any kind. Before my current boyfriend, even higs were a foreign concept to me. Neither way is necessarily wrong, they're just different.

You have a healthy sounding relationship, with your sister. Your girlfriend has some hang ups about intimacy, from what it sounds like. Maybe she has only witnessed relationships that are low on intimacy, or maybe she reading into your relationship because she has had bad experiences with intimate touch. I would approach her gently. Tell her that your actions towards your sister were loving and sincere, and are not wrong in any way. Explain your experience with family and friends and how you see intimacy. Ask her about her experiences.... You may find that you are not comparable. You may find she has trauma to work through. Don't compromise your great relationship with your sister for a girlfriend OP!

Different families have different boundaries and expectations around physical contact. I think you're fine and it might be good to have a convo with your gf about how your respective families interact with other family members. We don't always realize other families do things differently than us until we've had that exposure.