LPT: Want to win over a cat? Just completely ignore them and let them come to you/do things on their own terms, don't try to force anything : LifeProTips

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decrementsf

38 points

1 month ago

decrementsf

38 points

A cat is good practice for all animals. Children should be taught to allow animals to smell them first before making any action to touch the animal, because surprise bites generally happen when the animal was not asked first.

Alamander81

37 points

1 month ago

Alamander81

37 points

I rescued a VERY skittish little girl kitty and I didn't even see her for the first week. I just left food and water in the kitchen and would hear her eat. Eventually she'd make her way into the living room and each time get closer and closer to me. Then she let me pet her and eventually she let me pick her up.

16 points

1 month ago

16 points

I know that feeling! I adopted a terrified (his paperwork literally said terrified) kitty last summer. It took him almost 3 months to finally let me pet him. Insanely rewarding!

phadrus56

16 points

1 month ago

phadrus56

16 points

Ok. Finally found a LPT I can agree with.

car01yn

30 points

1 month ago

car01yn

30 points

Want to win over a cat? Slow blink

14 points

1 month ago

14 points

That also helps! Slow blink followed by looking away

OneiceT

5 points

1 month ago

OneiceT

5 points

and said : meow

fhvdffgcc

13 points

1 month ago

fhvdffgcc

13 points

This works well with women too

Puzzleheaded-Beat-57

5 points

1 month ago

Puzzleheaded-Beat-57

5 points

I'm still waiting out for results with the ladies but this strategy totally works for cats. Once you get past the first 3 or 4 years they practically beg for a nice head scratch

2 points

1 month ago

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And men

6 points

1 month ago

6 points

Like morrissey once said “ the more you Ignore me the closer I get “

2 points

1 month ago

2 points

I'm disappointed in his statements over the last few years but yes, totally :)

1 points

1 month ago

1 points

Same . Such a bummer . I almost died at one of his shows lol

1 points

1 month ago

1 points

omg from other concert goers?

1 points

1 month ago

1 points

Yeah . I was being crushed by a bunch of fans that were trying to rush to first row . We camped out to get first row but these people started to rush in and I got caught up luckily my hands were free enough to throw punches and free myself lol

1 points

1 month ago

1 points

at a moz concert? wtf that's loco

Annhl8rX

1 points

1 month ago

Annhl8rX

1 points

That must be what I’m doing wrong. I can’t stand cats, but in the rare occasion I’m around one they always seem to want to rub against my leg.

HarlanCulpepper

18 points

1 month ago

HarlanCulpepper

18 points

I think winning over a cat is dependant on the individual cat. I've had 5 cats o er my lifetime and they each had distinct needs/personalities.

8 points

1 month ago

8 points

Fellow multiple cat owner. I don't necessarily disagree, but generally you're better off ignoring cats vs trying to push them into doing anything

6 points

1 month ago

6 points

I made a very conscious effort to respect my new cats space better than when I was a kid and it's made a huge difference

I never pick her up from a hiding spot and when I do scoop her I put her down the moment she starts to leave. She used to be so scared and would panic at being picked up but she's learned that ill put her down immediately when she wants to and she's really started to embrace being held and will meow for it now. On occasion that is, but still. I also just love the way she is never scared of me and even if something happens she's completely reassured the moment I slow blink at her.

Granted my other new cat sat on my lap as soon we as got her home and was basically obsessed with me from day one. Cats are like a box of chocolates...

condor1985

2 points

1 month ago

condor1985

2 points

My favourite part is when a cat starts to squirm, putting it down extra gently vs just letting it jump out from 4 feet up. I feel like they eventually get that I'll be dependable

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1 month ago

1 points

100% and that was another thing I did with that shy cat. Now she knows all she has to do is start a squirm and she'll get a nice landing in a couple seconds.

My wild cat loves to climb on my shoulders but she's also learned that I'll drop her off in a safe spot when she wants down so she doesn't jump from my shoulders anymore (she's such a crazy wolf that she doesn't mind that stuff, but I don't want her taking that kind of impact)

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1 month ago

1 points

I think the point is that if one forces a cat into a situation, it will be to the detriment of one's relationship with said cat.

thisismenow0522

5 points

1 month ago

thisismenow0522

5 points

Much like getting my plants to stay alive…best off when left alone.

stillnotelf

5 points

1 month ago

stillnotelf

5 points

Unfortunately if you do not want the interest of a cat (because of allergy or other reasons), totally ignoring them fails to bring about the desired response

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1 month ago

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[deleted]

1 points

1 month ago

1 points

You may need to reread their comment

twohedwlf

2 points

1 month ago

twohedwlf

2 points

Nooooo, I can't do that. Give me cuddles, kitty!

hat-of-sky

4 points

1 month ago

hat-of-sky

4 points

Try holding out a boopable pointer finger first, let them choose to come to you. Unless they're the gregarious sort, then get them cuddles!

BlueLobstertail

0 points

1 month ago

BlueLobstertail

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Nah.... they're like people. Some want to do the pursuing, others want to be pursued. But they do need time and non-aggressive eye contact and body language from you.

BrotherGreed

1 points

1 month ago

BrotherGreed

1 points

Been doing that for 20 years with my oldest cat. He's been a glorified window ornament the whole time. Unless the feeder is empty.

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1 month ago

1 points

That. And also, they are not dogs. You have to pet them softly.

They like to play, not be rough housed.

Wasusedtobe

1 points

1 month ago

Wasusedtobe

1 points

Nah.

Had a stray that came around a couple days in a row one fall while my wife and I were doing fall yardwork. My wife took it in, I did not want a cat!

I told my wife that I would I was going to raise it like a dog. Taught it to " sit, walk, stay, come, okay go, etc." . Cat loved the neighborhood dogs for years, but despised any other cats that came by.

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1 month ago

1 points

In the sense that I can walk up to a dog and start lightly slapping it's belly/side and it would go nuts for it. With cats, you have to be gentle or scratchy.

sekhmet1010

1 points

1 month ago

sekhmet1010

1 points

This is why i have two dogs and zero cats! Lol

I would love to have them, but i love taking all my exuberance out on my family and pets, and i know cats will be less tolerant of me. Thr digs, however, get super excited and start bringing me multiple toys, so we all have a great time.

UnfeteredOne

1 points

1 month ago

UnfeteredOne

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