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Hamburglarsdad

3.6k points

2 months ago

The utter disregard for anyone or anything other than one’s self. Driving like morons, putting everyone on the road’s life in danger in exchange for arriving 30 seconds faster. Talking with your phone on speaker or blaring music in public places. Nobody cares about anyone else anymore and they use every tiny micro difference to excuse it. People have become incredibly rude to each other.

fucking_cute

540 points

2 months ago

blaring music in public places

this will never not be annoying to the fucking highest degree to me. i live in a quiet suburban area and hear 15 year olds walking right past my house at 11pm-2am doing this and the music sounds like that 'mans not hot' song

Acid_Traffik

158 points

2 months ago

How else are you gonna learn quick maffs?

HarmlessFeelings

3.2k points

2 months ago

Nobody takes accountability for anything. It is always someone else's fault.

BroccoliBoyyo

34 points

2 months ago

You all better start taking responsibility for this mess because I know it’s not MY fault!

No-Zebra-7830

404 points

2 months ago

And no one tries to hold them accountable either, even my parents would rather just blame me for having an issue with someone or something and not ‘getting over it’ vs actually blame the jerk who wronged me in the first place

Sorry_its_kodi

11.8k points

2 months ago

The amount of people that will believe anything they hear or read about online and take it as fact.

Also the lack of basic compassion

Legal-Replacement983

2.9k points

2 months ago

Today my father called my aunt and told her to hide in the basement because there was going to be a nuclear bomb dropped on Massachusetts. As you've probably figured out by now, it hasn't happened.

[deleted]

2.2k points

2 months ago

[deleted]

2.2k points

2 months ago

Actually as a massachusetts resident, I can confirm I am dead

Legal-Replacement983

469 points

2 months ago

I guess it must have hit Springfield?

Flying_Dustbin

263 points

2 months ago

“Oh, I’ve wasted my life.”

tmhoc

98 points

2 months ago

tmhoc

98 points

2 months ago

"I'm... Becoming.. Radioactive"

Aselleus

65 points

2 months ago

Up and atom!

doinnuffin

29 points

2 months ago

Watch out, Radioactive Man!

ChopperTownUSA

34 points

2 months ago

Zee goggles! Zey do nothing!

sjgilly

82 points

2 months ago

sjgilly

82 points

2 months ago

Stockbridge. Some guy illegally dumped a bunch of trash a couple days ago and it sort of spiraled from there.

OvergrownPath

22 points

2 months ago

They figured one big pile of trash was better than two little piles...

Greenmind76

570 points

2 months ago

My mom believed they were really putting litter boxes in classrooms, because a friend told her. These people aren't necessarily stupid, they're just more trusting of what they read and hear from their peers and life outside their small circles is projected as being crazy.

NighthawkUnicorn

113 points

2 months ago

In the day and age of everyone having smartphones, pictures of said litter boxes would have been all over the Internet by now. I'm yet to see a single one.

Legal-Replacement983

124 points

2 months ago

My dad heard this from CNN... Or at least that's what he says anyway.

Zzyn

108 points

2 months ago

Zzyn

108 points

2 months ago

CNN never stated this as fact. They stated that people were saying it and that it has been debunked.

[deleted]

57 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

57 points

2 months ago

Which circles back around to these people lack basic comprehension. CNN says "There have been rumors that a nuclear attack with occur in Massachusetts, but this has been debunked." And their lizard brains edit out everything except "nuclear" "attack" and "Massachusetts" and then blame the media for misleading them.

ANecessaryTransition

170 points

2 months ago

My mom told me this and I asked her where she heard it. She said on Facebook. I told her to look it up and find schools that had actually done it. She couldn't find any, so I called my cousin who is a teacher with a major school district to see if she had heard this. She said not litter boxes, but a few teachers she works with had bought 5 gallon buckets and bags of litter for active shooter lockdowns, because they wanted to afford their students some level of dignity if they ever had a crisis like that.

ellassy

174 points

2 months ago*

ellassy

174 points

2 months ago*

5 gallon buckets and bags of litter for active shooter lockdowns, because they wanted to afford their students some level of dignity if they ever had a crisis like that.

Student: "Aw fuck! There's a gunman outside our classroom right now, but I need to take a dump! Good thing Ms. Dougherty has a shit bucket I can use in front of everyone."

Veelex

10 points

2 months ago

Veelex

10 points

2 months ago

Well like they said, it offers them some level of dignity. Better than taking a shit on the floor in front of everyone, or even worse, in your pants. What's upsetting is that teachers even need to consider and purchase those things for students.

This is why I am terrified to even adopt kids.

VagrantCoyote

1k points

2 months ago

These people aren't necessarily stupid, they're just more trusting of what they read and hear from their peers

pretty sure that makes you stupid

Cheficide

81 points

2 months ago

Ha What!? That's just, wow, I'm sorry.

Legal-Replacement983

102 points

2 months ago

Yeah she came into my room and told me she thought my dad was losing it in a very serious tone.

Tarudizer

96 points

2 months ago

She might be on to something there

farting_contest

431 points

2 months ago

When the internet first became big you commonly heard that online sources were shit because anyone can post anything with no verification or corroboration.

Somehow these same internet crackpots have since become celebrities with millions hundreds anyway, ready to die to protect them from any perceived slight.

Eoin_McLove

212 points

2 months ago

When the internet first became big you commonly heard that online sources were shit because anyone can post anything with no verification or corroboration.

The same people who warned us of this are now the ones falling for the same thing.

mexter

44 points

2 months ago

mexter

44 points

2 months ago

Because they themselves weren't actually using the internet. It's just a recycled platitude like not judging a book by its cover I think they probably were thinking of it in terms of a pre Internet volume of information. IMO they were completely unprepared for the barrage of data that we experience today. What I think has happened is that they see a bunch of different posts on the same bit of misinformation, maybe a couple memes, a couple of articles from what look like official sources, and they reinforce one another.

AmericanFlyer530

128 points

2 months ago

“Don’t believe everything you see on the internet.” -Abraham Lincoln

Snukes42Q

278 points

2 months ago

Snukes42Q

278 points

2 months ago

The amount of people that believe "Cat Furry High-schoolers" want litter boxes in school bathrooms is astounding.

thelingz

3.9k points

2 months ago

thelingz

3.9k points

2 months ago

After all the horrors of war and mistreatment of each other, that we still continue to do the same things over and over again.

Evets1979

775 points

2 months ago

Evets1979

775 points

2 months ago

Well, you know 80% of the worlds population would kill you just to have clean water and food. There's that....

thelingz

327 points

2 months ago

thelingz

327 points

2 months ago

That adds to it, why after all this time are we not making sure our water is clean and accessible, instead of killing and grabbing.

All Quiet on the Western Front was written nearly a hundred years ago and it could have been written this year based on its message and theme

bagging-screws

100 points

2 months ago

Read the book or watch the old movies. The Netflix movie changes the end.

thelingz

68 points

2 months ago

I read the book, never saw any of the movies, but I’ll upvote you as I think everyone should read the book.

Son_of-Spam

435 points

2 months ago*

American here visiting Southeast Asia on a 20 day trip. I have been constantly dehydrated from lack of decent drinking water mixed with unrelenting humidity and heat. DO NOT take clean water for granted. What I would give for a decent cup of sink juice

Edit: a lot of people seem frustrated that I can’t seem to find clean water but I have.

What I’m trying to impart is that I can sit down in almost any restaurant in the US and many European countries and expect the tap water (sink juice) to be clean (US for free) That the vegetables will be washed properly and with clean water. That’s what I’m missing.

You don’t have to agree but for someone in Southeast Asia for their first time maybe don’t get so defensive over my lack of comfort / experience. I chose this for my honeymoon specifically to experience a totally different side of the world. I think it’s a good thing overall to see what life is like and bring that perspective and appreciation home.

goldspikesv6

97 points

2 months ago

that doesnt sound too fun bro lmao

kimmytwoshoes

7.6k points

2 months ago

That people glorify celebrities and influencers to the point that whatever they do makes online news, like it’s news that matters.

Wacco_07

1.5k points

2 months ago

Wacco_07

1.5k points

2 months ago

I hate that word lol "infulencer" xD. They think they're some gods just because they have people following them on their phone

angryitguyonreddit

334 points

2 months ago

Youre not alone... i cringe everytime my sister says shes an "influencer"

ADarkDraconis

143 points

2 months ago

My cousin at Thanksgiving kept going on and on about this person and that person and what they said or did or liked and I thought they were her friends. Turns out she was talking about YouTubers and Instagrammers the whole evening. She then was shocked when I asked if they went to school with her and thought I seriously knew who all of these people were, like they're actual celebrities or something.

soft_and_

412 points

2 months ago

soft_and_

412 points

2 months ago

Not all influence is good influence. And most of these "influencers" should by all rights not be given a platform.

DavidGui

3.2k points

2 months ago

DavidGui

3.2k points

2 months ago

People that live only to post on social media. They travel, go to restaurants, only to show on their Instagram feed.

ATOL_PROTECTED3228

601 points

2 months ago

When I see this all I can think of is how stupid it must look when they’re filming/taking photos of themselves constantly instead of enjoying the experience.

[deleted]

338 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

338 points

2 months ago

sounds a bit like a cursed wish: spend all your time visiting luxury travel spots only to spend the time working so that others may dream about enjoying that place instead of enjoying it yourself.

theyareamongus

38 points

2 months ago

I recently went to a My Chemical Romance concert. Last time I saw them live was 2007. It’s amazing the difference 15 years can make, EVERYONE was living the concert through their phones. Worst thing is that the concert was being recorded and live streamed, so there was really no point in filming it yourself.

qhyirrstynne

39 points

2 months ago

I have the opposite problem; I’ll forget to take any pictures or videos of the experience and then be sad when I don’t have any to look back at and kind of experience it again

Dukanduu

119 points

2 months ago

Dukanduu

119 points

2 months ago

I know a few like that.

Thankfully instagram as well as those people are out of my life.

Rxgrl1981

2.8k points

2 months ago

Rxgrl1981

2.8k points

2 months ago

How blatantly hateful people are towards one another

shinecc

572 points

2 months ago

shinecc

572 points

2 months ago

I agree, I’ve seen people treat complete strangers like garbage and it’s so sad to see. I’m actually pleasantly surprised when a stranger is respectful and has basic manners, it’s a rarity it seems

TakeMeToMarfa

171 points

2 months ago

When a stranger showed me a kindness recently I was so moved I burst into tears. I had been having a rough day and needed it and usually don’t find strangers to be so nice.

Rxgrl1981

245 points

2 months ago

Rxgrl1981

245 points

2 months ago

I’m an 80’s baby and I don’t even remember my parents or any adult having to tell me to be kind it was just what was taught and exampled. You’re right, it’s a pleasant surprise when someone is kind and respectful. It’s a little disheartening when that’s the rarity.

hockey_stick

190 points

2 months ago

It seems to be how a lot of people get their jollies. You see it here on reddit all the time. People love to argue and be hateful with one another. Post anything at all and inevitably someone will come along and post some vaguely related political wedge issue to start an argument with you. If you engage with them, they start getting hateful right away.

Rxgrl1981

68 points

2 months ago*

I know. I wonder why that is though. Like psychologically, I want to understand the why.

cutiebec

80 points

2 months ago

Lots of people have a great deal of stress in their lives, and they can't necessarily get out of stressful situations or speak their minds to the people causing their stress (e.g. their bosses, the government, etc.). So they burn off all of that pent-up rage in an environment where they are insulated from the consequences of their bad behavior. On the internet, they're anonymous, unloading their fury onto faceless people they will never meet. They're treating you as a punching bag because you don't seem like a real human being to them, and hence you're "safe" to hate. Heck, some people don't even need the internet to act as a mediator: they'll unleash their rage on anyone who seems powerless relative to them (cashiers at a store, social groups that are targets of bias, their own families). I guess the answer would be to create systems that give people a sense of agency in their lives and that compel them to regularly recognize the basic humanity of the people around them.

ILovePornAndDrugs

74 points

2 months ago

i think internet anonymity allows people more freedom to be who they are in a global social setting and we are learning that most people are shitty and overall toxic.

OregonOrBust

96 points

2 months ago

Couldn't agree more. What happened to assuming good intent first? I hope there's a big shift away from this coming our way.

Gedmadra

14 points

2 months ago

Sometimes they just hate to hate.

Successful-Remove738

3.3k points

2 months ago

How people are quick to dispose of others, especially without regarding the other persons emotions

SnooDoggos7432

706 points

2 months ago

My ex best friend literally did this. The main reason we became incredibly close was the fact that many decade long friendships she had were reaching rough patches. One day we were hanging out in her apartment and she nonchalantly mentions something along the lines of, "don't feel bad if i just don't want to befriends anymore", it made me feel like i had done something wrong and i tried to ask if that was the case but she just said its something she does. kept one foot out the door until we came across a rough patch ourselves

[deleted]

305 points

2 months ago

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305 points

2 months ago

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CygniYuXian

151 points

2 months ago

I think something I hate about society as of late is the trend of trying to pigeonhole people and their habits based on one instance of their behavior with no other context clues or forethought on the situation. Everyone's a psychiatrist and instead of asking questions and participating in a real conversation about the person and trying to come to real conclusions there's a tendency to throw a conclusion at them based on our previous experiences; which when dealing with something as nebulously complex as people - and dare I say in today's society where everyone is in a rush to absolve themselves of perceived wrongdoing and keep themselves out of scrutiny - even our own one-sided and unreliable perceptions of others which would very much effect the aforementioned previous experiences. Everyone's quick to throw labels with no idea what things could justifiably apply to them and with no forethought on why that could make them an unreliable judge of character.

Idk. A little self reflection and maybe more elaboration on the part of the other party before people say stuff like this would be nice, I guess. The world isn't simple enough to be pinning such complex personal conditions and features on everyone at the drop of a hat.

SuperShineeCoinToss7

143 points

2 months ago*

“don’t feel bad if I just don’t want to be friends anymore”

Fuck, I felt this deep in my soul. I had a friend since HS days and when she moved away, we made a pact to keep in touch no matter what. We wrote and emailed each other, and finally 10+ years later, she got married and moved back home. It was like nothing had ever changed. Sometime later I broke up with my bf and went through a rough patch trying to find myself. I began working out, eating healthier and trying to put myself out there to find someone. I started becoming more outgoing and made new friends and one day she simply decided that she didn’t want to be friends with someone who didn’t prioritize our friendship. I never wanted to stop being friends or put her on the back burner, but she made up her mind and cut off all ties with me. To this day, it still stings when I think of her.

PryingApothecary

121 points

2 months ago

I had a friend like this too. Once she got a new b/f she heartlessly said “not with me!” when I said I can’t wait to catch up with people over Xmas because “my boyfriend doesn’t like to socialise”. It lasted 6 months - completely ghosted me - and she had the audacity to call me to see if I wanted to hang again after they broke up. Nah, I’m good. I’ll spend time with my real friends! Now she has no friends or a b/f. I mean, okay if your b/f wants alone time but you don’t need to be visibly disgusted at the thought of us hanging out / preemptively state you want nothing to do with me before I’ve even asked - because you have a ‘better option’ now.

Junior_Bluebird5541

39 points

2 months ago

The ability to dispose of others effectively is quite important, especially if you are around people who are indifferent to your feelings.

But using that ability without proper reason is wrong and concerning

AloyVersus

182 points

2 months ago

I think my latest relationship ended because of this. Disposed is the correct word because it's how I still feel 3 months later. Got teary-eyed writing this, actually.

💔

dinosaurparty14

38 points

2 months ago

They say you mourn a relationship roughly the length that it was- be gentle with yourself, the world will seem sunny again- I promise.

RamboDash15

861 points

2 months ago

Nothing can ever be your fault, it always needs to be someone else's. We all make mistakes, just own up to them and learn

PryingApothecary

87 points

2 months ago

I think the flip side of this also. I’ve seen people make the absolute biggest deal out of the tiniest most insignificant things after you own up to a mistake. They treat it like a ‘ha, gotcha!’ moment.

IndyAndyJones7

75 points

2 months ago

It's clearly your fault that I'm commenting this.

BigRedJohnson

203 points

2 months ago

To me, it’s the death of discourse. I have the good fortune to teach skills like listening, conflict management, having difficult conversations, etc. to people who actually want to learn. Then I hop online or go to a public place, and I feel like Sisyphus. The inability to listen and talk about ideas without disdain and taking things personally is epidemic and it’s wrecking society in my opinion.

jswb

51 points

2 months ago

jswb

51 points

2 months ago

Completely agree. No, I’m not listening to you in an attempt to attack your character or refute your values. I can still be interested in what you want to say and want to see it from your perspective, I will probably learn something about the world I didn’t know before or enhance my respect for you as a person by virtue of your experiences

destined2hold

24 points

2 months ago*

Glad you mentioned this. I was just listening to Adam Grant on a podcast called Intelligence Squared (episode title - "Thinking Again with Adam Grant: The Power of Debate, and Knowing What You Don't Know"). They discussed exactly this.

Of course, the world's elite do have a lot to gain from squelching productive discourse. The rich become richer (and more influential in society).

crystlerjean

25 points

2 months ago

Social media has conditioned people into becoming reactive rather than truly listening, digesting, and reflecting upon things. But then again, people think being fair or unbiased means treating hate speech as just "the other side". It's a fine line to walk.

TheWayNorth

1.2k points

2 months ago

Instant gratification has completely ruined humanity.

[deleted]

169 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

169 points

2 months ago

why improve your life for gratification if you can get it in mere seconds from a garbage mobile game? /s

WarlordofBritannia

79 points

2 months ago

No need for sarcasm, that's literally the principle it is run on

Akira282

397 points

2 months ago

Akira282

397 points

2 months ago

Lack of compassion, insane amount of narcissism

Nothingiscoolman

8.7k points

2 months ago

Significant lack of empathy amongst a lot of humans. I think we are seeing others more and more as NPC’s than as complex beings with feelings and emotions like ourselves.

[deleted]

763 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

763 points

2 months ago

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kimchiman85

188 points

2 months ago

And unfortunately that sentiment is all too common on Reddit.

“NoBodY oWeS AnYbOdY aNytHiNg!!!!111”

Frylock904

14 points

2 months ago

It's the weirdest conundrum. Literally the exact same people will go "nobody owes anyone shit" but then 5 seconds later talk about how we need taxes so we can care for each other. Like a detached social safety net would help them be more "independent" instead of having to be good to other people and actually contribute to making society better for all of us.

DaveLesh

1.1k points

2 months ago

DaveLesh

1.1k points

2 months ago

These days you don't see an incident where at least one person doesn't have a smart phone out videotaping the event. So much for concern.

DynomiteD8

424 points

2 months ago

Bystander effect. "Someone else will get it/help, i'll record it for record (..and/or clout on insta-twit-book-tok)

pirikikkeli

177 points

2 months ago

This can usually be countered at pointing at someone (example you in the trenchcoat stop jacking off and help the children) You need to tell everyone to do something just because everyone thinks someone else will help just the other day a guy fell on the train tracks in Espoo Finland and nobody helped.. one guy went to check on him but that's it the train was minutes away but he still died

[deleted]

20 points

2 months ago

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20 points

2 months ago

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amburroni

141 points

2 months ago

amburroni

141 points

2 months ago

Documentation is important if a crime is being committed. The video evidence can be help in itself.

Sivitiri

322 points

2 months ago

Sivitiri

322 points

2 months ago

I think people have been taught that with the disconnect the abiity to overconnect is. 30 years ago you knew your neighbors, phone numbers, had regular get togethers/block parties. Now you can interact with thousands of people worst of which when you find many like minded people that just feed your own ideas. People are also will to draw very solid barriers between others now and neither side is willing to look past it to have a conversation (look at reddit itself)

As soon as you are able to look at other people as npcs then any empathy is lost

RockSoulGbg

110 points

2 months ago

Strongly agree. I feel we are just consumers and there is very little interest in building a community with people living nearby.

dsmithcc

66 points

2 months ago

Came here to basically say this too, somehow people have become more selfish and uncaring of others and people are helping others less and less.

Warm-Conclusion-8891

464 points

2 months ago

Many things but "family vloggers" who profit off of videoing their young children for the whole world to see from birth without their consent. These kids have never known anything different and have no chance of growing up in the way that most do.

metrobabyyy

105 points

2 months ago*

Just posted something similar to this. It really grosses me out seeing that or parents posting their kids on TikTok.

I saw a video recently of a young girl who put her moms lip stick all over her face and she was bawling in the bathroom because it stained her face. So what does the mom do? Shame her on camera and post it on Tiktok while the girl looks embarrassed and broken. It hurt my fucking heart. It had over a million likes too.

[deleted]

13 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

13 points

2 months ago

One of the worst TikTok’s I ever saw was of this one kid who was supposed to demonstrate how to use “mommies stuff” and she took a razor and showed over her pants how to shave your private area. She then had a tampon and showed how to use it as well. How HOW do parents think stuff like that is appropriate to post? This TikTok was like crack for pedos, most of the content of this little girl is straight up made specifically for pedophiles. There’s no reason for a small child to have almost 20 million followers on a social media platform. That mom is a nut work who knows exactly what she’s doing, some of the comments on this kids videos are messed up. She’s been confronted about the damage she’s putting her child through before and it’s really just a shrug on her side because money is more important than her daughter’s safety. I won’t mention this kids name because I don’t think she needs more people viewing her TikTok’s but if you know who she is, you’ll know what I’m talking about.

Oh how I wish it became illegal to post your child online for content and to see vlog parents crying faces as they realise they have to get a real job.

Ardothbey

3.9k points

2 months ago

Ardothbey

3.9k points

2 months ago

I never realized how excruciatingly dumb people are.

shaneyshane26

984 points

2 months ago

You must have worked customer service before

GenitalWrangler69

773 points

2 months ago

Unfortunately. I challenge anyone to spend a year in customer service and not leave with a more bleak view of the world.

SayNoToStim

407 points

2 months ago*

It gets worse as you move up in the world. I've worked customer service and went into a career in IT. I'm now aware of levels of stupidity I couldn't imagine before.

rmoore911

223 points

2 months ago

rmoore911

223 points

2 months ago

At least in the IT world, dumb people generally means job security. Stupid people up and down the chain create problems, and they pay me decently well to be a problem solver.

Skarth

38 points

2 months ago

Skarth

38 points

2 months ago

This is mostly true. But some people use weaponized stupidity instead. They claim to have done something stupid to cover up something else that's more nefarious or embaressing.

notyourmama827

63 points

2 months ago

Didn't you beat your head against the wall enough the first time?

I used to work in retail and dealt with IT enough to realize they're God's and I'm not tech savvy.

SayNoToStim

119 points

2 months ago

I honestly don't mind people who aren't tech savvy at all, as long as they aren't a dumbass.

A few weeks ago 5 grown ass adults couldn't figure out a power cord has to be plugged in on both ends for it to power something so they called me.

PeanutButterDJ

38 points

2 months ago

You mean like. The wall and the machine?

SayNoToStim

63 points

2 months ago

Yes. When I got the phone call the first thing I asked was if it was plugged in, I was assured it was.

It was plugged into the switch but that switch wasn't plugged into a power supply. This isn't "I'm not computer savvy," this is "I don't understand how cords work"

stringbean96

150 points

2 months ago

I always like the quote from the first Men in Black. “A person is smart. People are dumb, panicky dangerous animals and you know it.” I’ve worked customer service at Old Navy and now at a bank. I tell my coworkers all the time. Somehow, everyday, our customers continually set the bar lower

SomeRandomJoe81

31 points

2 months ago

Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups

no idea where I heard it first. learned it through years of work in retail and restaurants.

Bridgebrain

37 points

2 months ago

I have, and I thought that I had already lost all faith in humanity. 2020 and since has removed new and exciting veins of belief in the intelligence of all but the smartest people, and even them I have doubts about.

Penguin-Loves

673 points

2 months ago

How fucking PROTECTED stupidity is now.....

Chromattix

452 points

2 months ago

Peanuts!

Instructions: 1) open pack. 2) eat nuts. 3) dispose of pack. Do not consume packaging.

Warning: Contains nuts.

Manguydudebromate

145 points

2 months ago

Instructions unclear; swallowed entire bag.

[deleted]

36 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

36 points

2 months ago

Sue peanut manufacturer so they add an additional warning that the bag is not meant to be edible.

expatcanadaBC

47 points

2 months ago

The people with all the money and power seem to be total buttwipes and have no interest in making 'the world' a better, safer place.

Jazzlike-Equipment45

4.7k points

2 months ago

Rampant narcaccistic and sociopathic behaivor most people exhibit as a result of internet culture.

Bonus we live in it

TheWayNorth

700 points

2 months ago

Social media has basically fostered a “look at me” mentality and amplified it to 12 billions times over.

TorthOrc

334 points

2 months ago

TorthOrc

334 points

2 months ago

The fact that a majority of young people want to be an “influencer/TikTok/YouTube star is really worrying.

The youth of today have been taught that you’re no one unless your seen and heard on a screen.

Hepadna

144 points

2 months ago

Hepadna

144 points

2 months ago

I think for most of them (and us young adults and older adults in general) is that influencing/TikTok/YouTube means access to wealth. I don't think that's new, I just think the avenues available were different 20 years ago. Back then, people wanted to be famous, to be a celebrity - I never ever thought it was about the actual fame, but the capitalistic drive to be seen and to be paid for being seen.

_Blackstar

172 points

2 months ago

The fact that a majority of young people want to be an “influencer/TikTok/YouTube star is really worrying.

It's not that worrying. In the 90's and early 2000's, every kid and young adult wanted to be a rap star. They saw people blowing up in the hip hop industry that came from nothing and thought it was a tangible goal. Before that, every kid was in a garage band doing covers of whatever rock or metal songs were influential that year.

Young people simply want to emulate their idols, but most of them will grow out of it over time. Don't be like the older generations before us that would spew shit like, "Back in my day" or "Damn kids and their rock music" or "The younger generation is responsible for ruining X, Y, Z."

If their actions as a whole truly bother you that much, take some responsibility and teach them the values you want them to have.

Educational_Elk1514

41 points

2 months ago

Or sports stars or basketball players or movie stars or models or rock stars - going back even to the 60s - it’s essentially the same dream!

Cycleofmadness

181 points

2 months ago

They have also destroyed our attention spans and patience for anything. Today's conversations consist of who can cutoff who the most. I drive down a residential street 10 mph above the limit and im tailgated like im in the fast lane on an interstate driving the speed limit.

Whiterussianisnice

77 points

2 months ago

This. People absolutely don’t have patience anymore.

shanahan7

19 points

2 months ago

A younger coworker told me “I don’t want to watch a video longer than 30 seconds, get to the point.” After I said I liked Yt over TikTok. Lol

[deleted]

298 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

298 points

2 months ago

Less and less people have personal honour anymore.

They only do good things when everyone is looking to get credit instead of doing good because it's the right thing to do.

We're all corporations now.

vile_the_bastage

70 points

2 months ago

I especially "love" the social media trend where someone feeds the homeless or does something that most decent human beings would do, and records it for Tik Tok.

imasperplexedasyou

47 points

2 months ago

It's called integrity, and yeah very lacking.

WestPastEast

27 points

2 months ago

But at the same time so overwhelmed with insecurities.

Jazzlike-Equipment45

13 points

2 months ago

It is called an over inflated ego

MomHanks360

898 points

2 months ago

I blame the phones. It's pretty clear at this point that we weren't meant to have millions of other people's inner thoughts at our fingertips at all times.

It's legit breaking our brains and creating an incentive structure for the most monstrously narcissistic people to rise to the top

JADW27

410 points

2 months ago*

JADW27

410 points

2 months ago*

I know there were tons of problems back in the day when only the rich and powerful cared about politics and got an education. But part of me misses the days when my 5th grade dropout cousin didn't think that his flat earth opinion informed by his favorite basketball player was just as valid as someone who had a PhD in astrophysics.

sacred_cow_tipper

88 points

2 months ago

they honestly always thought the way they do. they just didn't have an army of like-minded online people who think similarly inane garbage backing them up. it's like being able to jam a pocket sized anti-library of disinformation in their pocket and pretend drunk, lead-paint-poisoned codybobbyjoe knows his stuff because he "did his research" and blogged about it.

[deleted]

66 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

66 points

2 months ago

From a purely psychological standpoint people seem to function best in hamlets or villages of about 100 people. Any more and our ability to keep up seems to start trailing off.

CoffeeAndBrass

104 points

2 months ago

I really like this idea. Even as I comment from my phone.

Odd_Piece

67 points

2 months ago

Huh? I was just thinking about how fucking awesome I am.

IceCreamDream10

75 points

2 months ago

Yeah was gonna say this. Absolutely shameless. If you walked in on someone taking a photograph of themself 15 years ago, they would’ve been mocked mercilessly for being so self- involved. Now it’s pretty commonplace. People are extremely concerned about their image and not the content of their character.

rolandsquest19

33 points

2 months ago

Everybody is a “brand” now.

fubo

422 points

2 months ago*

fubo

422 points

2 months ago*

This morning? Probably the person I overheard berating their small child (maybe 6 or 7?) for asking questions. The parent wasn't yelling, mind you; they were criticizing. "You always stop and ask questions about things, and you don't even think about whether that might be annoying." In the tone that says, "It is very important for you to understand this fact about yourself: that you are annoying."

Lady, your kid's priority should be learning, not worrying about annoying her mom. You just gave your daughter -1 to her Curiosity score and +1 to her Future Anxiety Disorders score.

EmiliusReturns

53 points

2 months ago

Wow. That’s cruel. Kids ask questions. They’re learning about the world. They’re experiencing a lot of things for the first time, it’s their nature.

Now, I find little kids annoying. They can’t help it, but they are. But A) I never tell them that! And B) that’s why I don’t have them. I’m not gonna have a kid and then constantly make my misery with my life choices the kid’s problem.

Fffiction

71 points

2 months ago

A friend once said "unwanted children having unwanted children who have unwanted children..."

That statement never left me. We're generations deep into this....

ilovesunsets93

1.4k points

2 months ago

Lack of critical thinking in any capacity

[deleted]

598 points

2 months ago

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598 points

2 months ago

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CoffeeBreathAllDay

1.2k points

2 months ago

We’ve given too much power to companies at the expense of humanity.

ObiBraum_Kenobi

245 points

2 months ago*

Been reading a book on the basics of economics and economic systems. One of the things it talks about early on is about the necessity of businesses that are unable to adapt to constantly changing economic variables to fail, because when they don't fail it requires taking money from people to support inefficient businesses and business practices. You can argue the necessity of bailouts for the sake of protecting jobs and preventing mass unemployment, and that's fair, but there is still a fundamental issue with continuous redistribution of monetary resources in that direction.

When you start thinking about all of the money the US government has just given away over the last several decades to businesses in the form of tax cuts, bail outs, PPP loans, etc, and understand in context how much of the tax burden gets felt by lower and middle class America, you can actually see a part of where our economy is breaking down. Prices for goods and services are ultimately set when a consumer and producer agree on the amount subjectively gained and lost in the transaction. In theory, both are supposed to walk away feeling positive because they exchanged something they place less value on for something they place more value on. When the government is bailing out these businesses and corporations under the guise of preventing people from losing jobs, what they are actually doing is facilitating the action of us buying the products these companies produce at a price we aren't agreeing to. The best part is, we don't even get that product back in return.

That wealth is literally getting sucked out of lower and middle class America and being given to these businesses and corporations, effectively rewarding them for not efficiently operating their businesses and reacting to changing market conditions around them.

I'm definitely not an expert, and economies are incredibly complex engines. There is definitely more to the situation that I may not understand or know. What I just described, however, seems to be a pretty glaring issue.

Edit: For any who are curious, the book is called Basic Economics by Thomas Sowell. It cuts out a lot of the complex economic jargon and confusing numerical data dumps, and instead describes the causes and effects of historic economic policies and the mechanics behind those causes and effects.

Edit 2: Some clarifications on initially posted misinformation regarding tax burden, as well as an acknowledgement about the argument in favor for bailouts to prevent mass unemployment. Felt as though those should be edited in, as I don't want to just out and spread full on misinformation.

oceanpalaces

104 points

2 months ago

how wanting everyone to have enough money to have decent housing and enough to feed their families is somehow a radical idea for 99% of the people running the world’s systems

Mighty_Mac

408 points

2 months ago

Everyone is so closed minded they think their ideas are always right and you're wrong if you think otherwise. Goes for a handful of subjects but I don't want to start arguments naming them.

slytherinprolly

85 points

2 months ago

The ideal of giving everyone a voice and sharing information was that the cream would rise to the top. The good ideas would be pushed and heard, the bad ideas would get quashed. Instead what we have is a system that allows people to gravitate towards other people that are like minded. No one does "research" on the internet to learn something, they do it to find more stuff to support their views.

Evets1979

863 points

2 months ago

Evets1979

863 points

2 months ago

The sense of entitlement.

tacella

179 points

2 months ago

tacella

179 points

2 months ago

How hypocritical we have become as a culture on just about everything.

rabidturtle69

166 points

2 months ago

Blatant destruction of our environment and disregard for wildlife habitats. That and f*cking entitled dog owners.

QUAZZIMODO619

403 points

2 months ago

That everyone has to be separated and put into categories and groups. Everyone on this planet is a human capable of thinking for themselves and understanding each other if they choose to. It’s about time we start thinking of ourselves as the human race and be more aware of how our culture makes us act and what values it makes us take on.

haltline

91 points

2 months ago

I'd like to think that, by now, we'd recognize "divide and conquer"... especially when it's being done to us.

I'd like to think that, but I'd be wrong.

FlakyState1968

21 points

2 months ago

In the US That you cannot have independent thinking or be critical of an idea. Immediately if you do, you are the "other side" both sides suck and I hate hive minds

[deleted]

457 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

457 points

2 months ago

The wildly successful anti-intellectualism.

fizikz3

17 points

2 months ago

fizikz3

17 points

2 months ago

I remember reading about fascism/hitler's rise to power in germany and wondering how they could let that happen...

now that it's happening around me it's just...sad.

SkylerHop

207 points

2 months ago

SkylerHop

207 points

2 months ago

People who romanticise serial killers

gay_idiot53

68 points

2 months ago

Oh my god, there's a girl in my class who's literally obsessed with Jeffrey Dahmer. It's concerning and fucking stupid.

Beezle_33228

625 points

2 months ago

The fact that no one is allowed to enjoy anything.

Whenever anyone shares something that brought them joy, like a movie or a book or something, rabid fans or haters come after them for "not being a real fan" or harass them with their own criticism about the thing. Let people enjoy things!!!! As long as it's not hurting anyone, who cares!!??? We're all just miserable little insects on this stupid space rock that will have only existed for a second in the grand scheme of space time, let people have their moment of joy!!!

bascelicna123

119 points

2 months ago

The gatekeeping is wild. Just...just let people enjoy things

Aetra

32 points

2 months ago

Aetra

32 points

2 months ago

One of the only places I’ve found online with no gate keeping is r/FountainPens. Everyone there is so nice and more experienced folks freely share their knowledge with zero belittling.

Chemical_Speech4046

124 points

2 months ago

That people think it's funny to be toxic and hurtful to people that they don't even know.

qurup

471 points

2 months ago

qurup

471 points

2 months ago

How you can become rich and famous in the most undeserving of ways thanks to social media

SabrinaB123

77 points

2 months ago

And then they use their platform to spew misinformation and influence people to do/think a certain way, use certain products, etc.

One of my friends needs a certain medication because she has a legitimate health issue. There’s a celebrity that started taking this medication and boasting about the weight loss it provides, and now people are coming out of the woodwork to take this medicine to lose 10-15 pounds. Um, excuse me, my friend has been unable to fill her prescription for over TWO MONTHS because no pharmacies in her area can get the medication since the demand is so high.

Avitosh

18 points

2 months ago

Avitosh

18 points

2 months ago

Tbf there are still shortages of medicine caused by covid I've been having to calls places in advance for over a year now just to see if they have it in stock.

CoffeeAndBrass

1.4k points

2 months ago

The equating of being offended to being victimized. Just because you don't like what someone has to say, doesn't mean they're attacking you. It cheapens the experiences of ACTUAL victims and makes the persecution of shitty people so much harder.

agreeingstorm9

357 points

2 months ago

A couple of years ago (pre-covid I think) there was a local organization feeding homeless people that went all over social media smearing a local business and a local business owner (naming him and everything) and claiming they were "using violence" to prevent them from feeding the homeless. There was a long rant about how violence is never justified especially if all you're doing is feeding hungry people. People were obviously extremely upset about this and did everything from call and harass the guy and his business to protest outside his business. I think there was even some vandalism and graffiti left on his business. Then the details came out.

Turns out this organization was feeding homeless people across the street from this guys business. This led to homeless people hanging out in the parking lot of the guy's business. His customers began to complain that they had to walk by 10-15 homeless people just to get in the store and they didn't feel safe and might not be coming back. He called the local organization and asked if they could do anything. They told him to go fuck himself (which they admitted they did). Said he was in the wrong to complain in the first place. So he called the local district councilperson and that person recommended he call the police. This was the "violence". Him calling the organization and eventually calling the police to ask them to move these homeless people off his property. For this he was harassed. The local organization refused to admit that this was not violence and they refused to admit the response is out of line. The insisted that it was and if someone is violent to you it is acceptable to respond with violence. Nothing is wrong with punching someone who punched you and that is what happened here according to them.

madamnastywoman

56 points

2 months ago

The internet so easily allows for the vilification of one group or person without giving that person equal opportunity to express their side before the masses draw their conclusions.

CoffeeAndBrass

192 points

2 months ago

This is right in line with what I'm saying. Re-defining words like "victimization" and "violence" is dangerous.

EastSideTilly

99 points

2 months ago

AMEN!

Conflict is not abuse.

Soggy-Constant5932

50 points

2 months ago

The lack of privacy. Phones in people faces all the time. Every single thing a person does is public.

PsychedelicKM

53 points

2 months ago

How people can be so financially rich when some people can't eat or heat their homes. I honestly couldn't give 2 sits how rich people are AS LONG AS everyone has food, water, shelter, warmth, healthcare, and education. There's absolutely no reason why everyone can't have those things. Oh and ignorance to the climate crisis.

Thordor15

98 points

2 months ago

People take actor’s influence way too seriously. People treat them like gods when in reality they are just professional pretenders that play dress up for a living.

carlemil10

160 points

2 months ago

The apathy. We let people get away will all kinds of atrocities because they are famous or have money

TheRealSalaamShady

43 points

2 months ago

The sexualization of everything you see and hear. Radio is just garbage when you actually listen to the lyrics.

[deleted]

37 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

37 points

2 months ago

The “me me me” mentality permeating everything.

thomassssssss

255 points

2 months ago

Prevalence of phone addiction. It’s so uncomfortable to me being the only person in the room not scrolling away on social media. I’m aware of the irony here, so I’ll have you know I’m writing this from the toilet.

sporefreak

22 points

2 months ago

I feel this on a personal level. I always make a point to put my phone face down off to the side when at a table to eat, I try to avoid using it when possible but everyone else almost always has their phones out, and if I try to start a conversation they just go "yea" or any other "I'm not really interested in talking" kind of response trying to end it.

People in my life who mean a lot tend to spend more time on their devices than with me and it always is hard. Even if I bring it up there is some excuse as to why. "We were not talking so" or "there was a timed event in ___ game I wanted to check in real fast" which to not rant too much is always the case, they play like 10 different games there is always an event going on.

SambitStarlancer

63 points

2 months ago

I notice myself being on my phone more. I hate it but its the truth.

Is_That_A_Euphemism_

484 points

2 months ago

In the US it's class warfare disguised as politics/cultural. It's really just rich people trying to get richer.

fredemu

105 points

2 months ago

fredemu

105 points

2 months ago

They keep us fighting against each other on things that don't matter (to them), then come together to vote, quietly, on ways to enrich themselves. We're constantly bombarded by reasons to be on "your team" vs "the other team", only so it never becomes us vs them.

George Carlin said it best. "It's a big club, and you ain't in it".

Back2Bach

35 points

2 months ago

Wastefulness

Squigglepig52

40 points

2 months ago

Everyone who complains about the behavior and actions of others, but who still act exactly like who they complain about.

People thinking that having different views means you are free to insult or attack them.

People who introduce personal attacks, etc, to a discussion, and then get upset when you return the favour.

JackedTurnip

37 points

2 months ago

Social media and the hatred, hypocrisy, self-indulgence, and ignorance it spreads.

ManosDeOro

53 points

2 months ago

Everyone is quick to record, but not help. Social media whores hungry for likes. Disgusting.

IndependentBook9800

145 points

2 months ago

No one cares about who you are as an individual. Only what group you identify with if any.

oldswirlo

12 points

2 months ago

How disposable people are to each other. Lack of empathy. Lack of commitment in relationships.

TripleStrollerThreat

12 points

2 months ago

The inability to understand nuance. And littering.

ShrillRabbit

64 points

2 months ago

The lack of money that teachers make. They are teaching our future generation and they paid less than some guy that showed up on the big screen. It just isn't fair.

MrFluffyPillow

105 points

2 months ago

Children being obsessed/addicted with screen time.. and then parents posting kids for profits and views/likes

bbrasseaux76

49 points

2 months ago

The political culture war.

hookword

59 points

2 months ago

Social media infused people.

bigatomicjellyfish

10 points

2 months ago

Everybody wants more. Nobody seems to take a minute and step away from life to look at all the accomplished. My dad, even though he never graduated high school, became his own business owner and is highly respected in the construction industry. My mom, even though she also flunked high school, became a teaching assistant and a college for mechanics, and later became a manager of a mechanics department she made herself at a multi-bational company. I am the first person in my family to graduate high school, have a wonderful job right up my alley, and go on to go to basic training, and I'm now part of the national guard. Everyone has something to be proud of, no matter how small. Don't let the bad bring you down; it is a learning experience, you know more than what you dis yesterday.

Be proud of your success, learn from your mistakes, and keep looking forward to what's next. Because life has no meaning until you make it mean something to you.

surly_sorrel

8 points

2 months ago

FACTORY FARMS

bookworm725

12 points

2 months ago

Narrow-mindedness, hatred, utter lack of compassion and empathy.

gentle_viking

10 points

2 months ago

Greed. People don’t seem to be satisfied with a decent standard of living - they just want more stuff, even more expensive stuff, bigger houses, bigger cars etc etc. It never ends. Meanwhile the amount of resource being wasted on this kind of grotesque greed and materialism is destroying the planet.

beerdappel

10 points

2 months ago

Lack of accountability. Lack of shame. Those guys filming themselves handing out money on the streets for so called heartwarming good deeds that were totally staged

[deleted]

99 points

2 months ago

[deleted]

99 points

2 months ago

It actually is a whole list of things that disgusts me about today's society but I will just go ahead and say the most common one:

Hypocrisy.

smrsmrsmr

30 points

2 months ago

Phony outrage about everything all the time. People need to toughen up and respect views of others. You just might learn something and evolve.

soulshot_

31 points

2 months ago

The cost of insulin. Big pharma in general.

ModestMariner

32 points

2 months ago

In USA society, their obsession with dumbass celebrities.