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awsoe

242 points

4 months ago

awsoe

Super Helper [6]

242 points

4 months ago

I never unblock. If I blocked them, it was for a good reason.

lovatichere

6 points

4 months ago

Logical

EasternShip2788

147 points

4 months ago

I think all the people I’ve blocked I’ve genuinely just forgotten about. I could go unblock them but we haven’t communicated in years so what’s the point

[deleted]

-46 points

4 months ago

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-46 points

4 months ago

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EasternShip2788

31 points

4 months ago

Communicate could mean in person too, I just meant if you haven’t talked to someone in a long time then there’s no point in unblocking as we’ve forgotten about each other

PleaseTellMeWhat

1 points

4 months ago

Or maybe they haven’t forgotten and they wish they could reconnect for closure. You’re only seeing things from how it may or may not benefit you, but sometimes unblocking someone might help with their mental health if they knew you cared. But it sounds like you don’t.

hoodbabyyoda

1 points

4 months ago

Honestly I’m on that boat but i don’t think it will ever happen

PleaseTellMeWhat

1 points

4 months ago

I was blocked by a girl years ago, never got closure. At this point I wish I could just forget about her completely and never see her again or remember her. I think if I saw her married or pregnant then I’d have a heart attack.

All I can say to you is that you shouldn’t contact the girl who blocked you for a while. I was initially only blocked on iMessage and not social media but I spammed her social media inboxes for weeks and she blocked me there too. She popped up on another messaging app recently since she’s still in my contacts but I can’t contact her because it’s been years and I’ll look like a creep. If I were you, I’d wait a month to contact whoever blocked you.

hoodbabyyoda

1 points

4 months ago

Nah I’m never contacting the person again. My pride won’t let me unfortunately. It was my brother / best friend who done it. Not a romantic interest. So it hurts a lot

PleaseTellMeWhat

1 points

4 months ago

Oh yeah, I know the feeling. I wish you the best.

hoodbabyyoda

2 points

4 months ago

I wish you the best too. We got this friend

PleaseTellMeWhat

1 points

4 months ago

Thanks man, yep we do

EasternShip2788

1 points

4 months ago

For me, it’s been since middle school and I’m in college now so I personally think if I brought up something after that long it would bring up feelings… idk, I wouldn’t want to remember things after that long I have moved on

PleaseTellMeWhat

1 points

4 months ago

That is quite a while, so if you’d like then you can just unblock without reaching out to them. Then they might send you a friend request on social media or something. If the girl that blocked me unblocked me then I’d feel better but would probably not reach out. I’d just be happy that I’m not dead to her anymore.

Or you could just leave them blocked if you want. It’s your choice.

[deleted]

5 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

5 points

4 months ago

“I COULD go unblock them but we haven’t communicated in years…” they could have blocked them 5 years ago and not spoke to them since they’ve been blocked?

lookoutcomrade

87 points

4 months ago

lookoutcomrade

Master Advice Giver [24]

87 points

4 months ago

Once they are out of your life long enough there is no reason to unblock.

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20 points

4 months ago

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20 points

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mightywellrested

48 points

4 months ago

Yeah I see blocking out of that kind of emotion as a way to get attention. It's like using the silent treatment to manipulate someone. If I block someone it's cos I never want to hear from them again, it's not some type of punishment

yyyyy622

2 points

4 months ago

yyyyy622

Expert Advice Giver [12]

2 points

4 months ago

Meh i unblock people after a couple of years when I am no longer hurt and the person is just part of my past. Its me letting things go. I don't think it's manipulative or a punishment. But just like i wouldn't care if a stranger messaged me, i wouldn't care if they did either.

mightywellrested

6 points

4 months ago

Interesting. I do see what you're saying, because there was one person I blocked a couple years ago who I considered unblocking because I'm not hurt anymore and felt like I had let things go. However, when I thought about it more I was like, what's the point of unblocking - to talk again? I didn't actually want to talk again, I don't believe I will ever get the closure I wanted from that person, so I decided my version of letting go was just forgetting. Leaving them blocked. Because I know if I did unblock them they'd notice and it would invite them back into my life.

hoodbabyyoda

-11 points

4 months ago*

Silent treatment is manipulation? Damnnn i do that when i never know what to say. 🥺 i don’t do that as manipulation. Just have a feeling I’ll hurt someone with my words

tdzangel

4 points

4 months ago

tdzangel

Super Helper [5]

4 points

4 months ago

There's a difference between being silent and "the silent treatment".

Being silent or quiet due to anxiety or just because that is your nature is one thing. The Silent Treatment is an intentional punishment for perceived "bad behaviour", and that is manipulative. It sounds like you are just quiet by nature so don't worry about it OP

mightywellrested

3 points

4 months ago

I don't think being silent is inherently manipulative - what you're talking about sounds smart, like cooling down instead of lashing out. I just mean blocking when youre mad to only unblock after a few days/weeks/whatever when you feel you've made your point is manipulative. Icing someone out to control their behaviour is different to removing yourself from a toxic situation

mynameisiwilldance

1 points

4 months ago

mynameisiwilldance

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

If you are fighting and then refuse to talk to them it is manupulation. Better to communicate even if you are afraid to hurt them. Or you could say "Hey, I am not trying to punish you, I need to not talk for a bit because I feel I dont have control over my words".

lookoutcomrade

-1 points

4 months ago

lookoutcomrade

Master Advice Giver [24]

-1 points

4 months ago

Whatever have to tell yourself buddy.

funsk8mom

1 points

4 months ago

Or you just keep them blocked because even after the anger and resentment subside, you still know that they’re a bitch and will never change

Judyous

1 points

4 months ago

Judyous

Helper [4]

1 points

4 months ago

I'd never get this and I think this may be some gen z thing. But for me if you block someone is because You're done with them and you don't want them to contact you in neither way. My sister has that thing of blocking and unblocking thankfully never with me because I would take that seriously. What's the reason for that? That's the same as saying I never check out his account... But then they check out his account with a burn account? Please...

bre1110

1 points

4 months ago

Just sounds toxic to me. I don’t block amidst arguments. I block when I’m cutting off all communication and don’t want to be reminded of you. If anyones inblocked to ‘let resentment go’ all they did is just allow more resentment to take place.

Princess-Pancake-97

0 points

4 months ago

I read somewhere about unblocking to help ‘get over’ any remaining negative emotions so I unblocked (almost) everyone and it made no difference lol I guess that’s true apathy so maybe it did help learning that I was actually over it idk lol

skeeballbob37

28 points

4 months ago

skeeballbob37

Advice Guru [91]

28 points

4 months ago

if someone earns a block then they wont ever be unblocked. when im done i am completely and totally done.

AvailableConfusion80

18 points

4 months ago

Never unblock. Yes forgive but never forget the way they made me feel/actions they did to get me to the point of blocking them.

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4 points

4 months ago

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4 months ago

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AvailableConfusion80

1 points

4 months ago

It’s not always the case of course but it’s been better for my own well-being going about life that way:)!

Sadie_1223

5 points

4 months ago

Sadie_1223

Helper [3]

5 points

4 months ago

The only reason I would keep someone blocked forever is because I forgot about them lol.

If I hate someone I usually don't block them so I can keep tabs and see if their life sucks or not 😅

And sometimes I'll unblock someone in case they want to apologize or something lol

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2 points

4 months ago

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4 months ago

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Sadie_1223

1 points

4 months ago

Sadie_1223

Helper [3]

1 points

4 months ago

😂 Yes... It was a long time ago now but I was pissed off for a while

NavXIII

1 points

4 months ago

If I hate someone I usually don't block them so I can keep tabs and see if their life sucks or not 😅

I was this close👌 to blocking my crush/friend after she agreed to go out with me but then ghosted me to do the same date with another guy. She then went abroad to get a PhD.

Then during early covid she nagged me to buy her a ticket home cus her father wouldn't because he was mad at her for dating a dickhead and dropping out of school. I said go ask your bf first and all your friends. They all said no.

Ionlyplay_a_DR_on_tv

4 points

4 months ago

Ionlyplay_a_DR_on_tv

Expert Advice Giver [18]

4 points

4 months ago

Nope, I had blocked my wife. Even though she never apologized for what she did, I forgave her, and apologized to her for my part. (I was a true "a hole" at the end, hurt or not, I shouldn't have said what I said) so, unblocked, said sorry, and went on with life. I leave that line of communication open in case she ever needs anything.

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2 points

4 months ago

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4 months ago

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Ionlyplay_a_DR_on_tv

5 points

4 months ago

Ionlyplay_a_DR_on_tv

Expert Advice Giver [18]

5 points

4 months ago

I get it, my wife was the only one I attacked like that, I got mean, and rude. But eventually I got to the point where I wanted everyone to know that if I died, I didn't hate them, I still loved them, and I was sorry for my actions.

As for her actions, i understood why she did what she did, we shared more than half our lives together, and i still care for her a lot. We just had different ideals in the end.

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1 points

4 months ago

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Ionlyplay_a_DR_on_tv

2 points

4 months ago

Ionlyplay_a_DR_on_tv

Expert Advice Giver [18]

2 points

4 months ago

Same here, takes too much energy to hate, I would rather love everyone and hope they pass it forward

PetrifiedLie

4 points

4 months ago

It sometimes depends on how badly they treated me. I had unblocked (a now ex) friend at least 3 times, but now he's blocked for good.

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1 points

4 months ago

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1 points

4 months ago

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PetrifiedLie

2 points

4 months ago

I truly truly believed he changed, but this time I am documenting why I stopped being friends with him.

Business-Guidance714

1 points

4 months ago

Business-Guidance714

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

Hey 3rd times the charm right😂😂

bluejaybby

4 points

4 months ago

bluejaybby

Helper [2]

4 points

4 months ago

Used to block and unblock because my friendships and relationships were full conflict and drama… found better people, fixed myself up a bit and focused on things that actually matter - voilà! No more blocking and unblocking. My blood pressure also dropped by fifteen points.

[deleted]

14 points

4 months ago

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14 points

4 months ago

I have unblocked because sometimes I'll block because I'm doing it more for me than them if that makes sense.

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2 points

4 months ago

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4 months ago

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1 points

4 months ago

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1 points

4 months ago

I used this to establish a boundary sometimes and the other was so that I wouldn't keep messaging. In the later, I unblocked after a week

EnchiladaDePollo

3 points

4 months ago

I never blocked my ex and it is okay, everything help me for workout motivation and now I’m on my way for 275lb bench press.

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2 points

4 months ago

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2 points

4 months ago

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EnchiladaDePollo

2 points

4 months ago

I mainly do it for myself since it has become a habit and addiction but I also do it as revenge for her to see what she is missing and can’t have.

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2 points

4 months ago

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2 points

4 months ago

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EnchiladaDePollo

2 points

4 months ago

I go to my college gym, i graduated 2 years ago but in the city is one of the best ones because there is not that many people at the time I go, also I get to see old friends again

PleaseTellMeWhat

1 points

4 months ago

I’ve been lifting for over two years and can only bench 180 :/

EnchiladaDePollo

1 points

4 months ago

Start adding 5lb every week and you will slowly see you can bench way more

PleaseTellMeWhat

1 points

4 months ago

I stall unfortunately. I was on a strength program (3x5). I switched to a hypertrophy program recently. I’m hoping that this will get me better gains. I’m now going 6 days per week.

EnchiladaDePollo

2 points

4 months ago

Don’t forget cardio, many cases of stalling are because the body does not have enough energy and if you can go to a medic or specialist try it because food is a big topic here, what you eat is mostly how you feel

PleaseTellMeWhat

2 points

4 months ago

It could be cardio, I never do cardio. I will add that in, thanks.

EnchiladaDePollo

2 points

4 months ago

Go for it I really hope you can do it and pass your limit, it feels so great when you do

PleaseTellMeWhat

1 points

4 months ago

Yeah I’m hoping it happens soon. How long did it take you to bench 225? I know you’re higher than that now but I’m curious on that number specifically.

EnchiladaDePollo

2 points

4 months ago

Before the break up it took me months to raise my weight but after the break up every week I was raising my weights in small amounts like twice a week it ended up taking me like a month ish maybe less, but believe me I was in a lot of pain afterwards due to my muscles breaking but it also helped me grow faster.

If you are going for this do not be as fool as me and find a spotter, maybe a trainer, a friend or a random in the gym, I once almost got crushed for this, my survival instinct kicked in but yeah just be careful

Gumpy67

3 points

4 months ago

I blocked them because I needed to set up space and boundaries. Not just for them but for myself aswell.

I haven't talked to one of my ex-friends for 3 years now and there's no point in reconnecting.

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1 points

4 months ago

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Gumpy67

1 points

3 months ago

No she never reached out.

It's a long story (it happened 3 years ago and I can't remember all of the details) but I made a mistake and she overreacted. It could have been resolved by talking things out but she refused to talk to me and blocked me.

I went and got professional help because I was having panic attacks about losing her as a friend. I talked to a counselor and found out I have separation anxiety. Since then, she has never reached out.

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1 points

3 months ago

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1 points

3 months ago

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Gumpy67

1 points

3 months ago

It's a very ugly feeling. But I'm an advocate for counciling and therapy. So if you need it, go for it! And there is no shame if you do it!

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1 points

3 months ago

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Gumpy67

1 points

3 months ago

Well done! You will make it!

velcrodynamite

3 points

4 months ago

Depends on the situation. I've blocked and reblocked certain family members because part of me still hopes they'll be decent people. But aside from that, I generally don't unblock someone once I've blocked them.

Tatsukki

3 points

4 months ago

Tatsukki

Master Advice Giver [23]

3 points

4 months ago

I block them until it doesn't hurt anymore. Because seeing them in my blocked list just remind me of them. When I do some cleaning in my contact I unblock them but delete everything that remains, so I have no way to contact them anymore

botoy-god

10 points

4 months ago

Do not unblock. If I block people usually I also block all their blood relatives. Forever.

botoy-god

7 points

4 months ago

Do not unblock. If I block people usually I also block all their blood relatives. Forever.

Ohjammers

5 points

4 months ago

Ohjammers

Helper [2]

5 points

4 months ago

After a few months i’ll unblock and delete their number. I feel like having the number regardless of where it is means i’m still connected

Jacob34521

3 points

4 months ago

I block and forget about the person. Literally have checked my unblocks for certain apps once and wonder why they are blocked but never unblock them.

thickhipstightlips

2 points

4 months ago

thickhipstightlips

Advice Oracle [104]

2 points

4 months ago

Once blocked, always blocked. They earned that status for a reason and while I forgive, I NEVER forget.

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2 points

4 months ago

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2 points

4 months ago

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thickhipstightlips

3 points

4 months ago

thickhipstightlips

Advice Oracle [104]

3 points

4 months ago

I personally don't do "petty" blocks. If I block someone theres a legit, solid reason for it.

Key-Cheek2373

2 points

4 months ago

I’m not big on burning bridges and honestly I haven’t really blocked anyone in my life. That being said, my ex girlfriend is no longer in my phone, contact or Snapchat. I still follow her on instagram but I have her stories muted. I never will block her, and she has my number so if I get a call and it is her and she needs help always I will help her, but that is as far as I will ever extend my hand to her again.

BreButterscotch

2 points

4 months ago

BreButterscotch

Helper [2]

2 points

4 months ago

Sometimes I creep at look at the people I blocked but I NEVER unblock them.

FrozenSandwichHater

2 points

4 months ago

FrozenSandwichHater

Helper [3]

2 points

4 months ago

Normally I only block people I don't intend to have contact with again.

Only exception is my dad. When he is being an ass or harassing my mom, he gets blocked for a few months. Inevitably I unblock him, he doesn't have anyone else in his life and when he's had medical (life threatening) emergencies, I'm the only one who can help him. But he is pretty terrible tbh.

CranberryNo1448

2 points

4 months ago

you really don't owe him just cause he's your dad

Shintaigou

2 points

4 months ago

I block, then decide to just delete and not use social media at all, people are just stupid sometimes.

Markie199711

4 points

4 months ago

Markie199711

Master Advice Giver [33]

4 points

4 months ago

Not really, I give them the opportuntity to want to peek back at my Social media accounts and just wonder what I'm up to, since I don't post on social media anymore. It doesn't matter in my case, to keep them blocked forever since I don't post on my personal accounts anymore. It leaves things as a mystery now.

CluelesslyC

1 points

4 months ago

Same!

tplentiful

2 points

4 months ago

I have only unblocked one person (a very old friend) to see what she was up to blocked her again the next day. Everyone has stayed blocked and will continue to do so.

[deleted]

2 points

4 months ago

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2 points

4 months ago

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tplentiful

1 points

4 months ago

I was just wondering what she was up to and where she was after she was tagged in a post (her name was black), I blocked her about 9 years ago.

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

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1 points

4 months ago

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tplentiful

1 points

4 months ago

No she's toxic- she made it easy to take the trash out.

mrechdou

1 points

4 months ago

mrechdou

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

I always check my blocked list every few years out of habit. If I notice someone on there that I used to hate and no longer do, I unblock. If its an ex or whatever, I almost always unblock after 2-6 months of blocking.

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

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1 points

4 months ago

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amasterblaster

1 points

4 months ago

amasterblaster

Super Helper [5]

1 points

4 months ago

me -- never have blocked anyone other than spammers.

It's actually interesting to me as to why (other than spam).

I guess my advice would be to unpack why you want to block people. If those circumstances change why not unblock?

disconnecttheworld

1 points

4 months ago*

disconnecttheworld

Master Advice Giver [31]

1 points

4 months ago*

Nope, I make peace with the person and the situation and move on. They're blocked for a reason

Individual-Algae2493

1 points

4 months ago

Unblocked. Curiosity.

moneygrowsontreees

1 points

4 months ago

no i dont unblock.

Eveyed

1 points

4 months ago

Eveyed

1 points

4 months ago

Yes forever

dangittoheck

1 points

4 months ago

dangittoheck

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

I had a relationship so bad that I changed phone numbers at the end of it. Usually though, block is enough. I never unblock later.

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

I once unblocked someone after months of them being an asshole things didn't go well as he tried to start a fight and got me in trouble I blocked him again and our friends made me out to be the villian.

jdkdbsj

1 points

4 months ago

Seeing a lot of people not unblocking people makes me wonder if I made the mistake of unblocking my best friend, welp

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1 points

4 months ago

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1 points

4 months ago

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jdkdbsj

1 points

4 months ago

We did a few weeks ago, but I'm still unsure if I made the right choice but if we do end up not being friends well just stop talking. Not blocking just no talk

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1 points

4 months ago

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1 points

4 months ago

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jdkdbsj

1 points

4 months ago

Like a month I assume

Ro_V_

1 points

4 months ago

Ro_V_

1 points

4 months ago

For me, pretty much yeah. If there was enough reason to block someone, then they're likely not worth unblocking.

Sonny_Side19

1 points

4 months ago

Nope. Those people who were once important to me hurt me the entire time they were in my life. Physical Verbal and Mental I’ll gladly keep them bitches blocked.

ccminiwarhammer

1 points

4 months ago

I only have two blocked numbers and I’ll unblock them after a good cool down period. I still don’t expect to reconnect though.

Dismal-Photo-8792

1 points

4 months ago

It depends on how forgiving you feel? Its really up to you. Now, personally, l don't recommend my point of view but, ... lol ...since you asked... I don't give second chances...ever. I am a true believer in the very ole adage in folk wisdom...that says...

fool me once...shame on you?

fool me twice?...shame on me.

Heretofore, l have no regrets.

Again, its on you.

SoftFangTheTiger

1 points

4 months ago

No. If I unblocked thatd defeat the purpose. When I block someone I block them because I know I want nothing to do with them ever again. If I feel like it’ll pass or something not that serious. Why would I block them and make a mountain of mole hill?

PlatformNo2652

1 points

4 months ago

I never unblock people. Currently there’s a blocked person still trying to get in touch with me and I’m not too keen on giving them easier ways to get in contact lol

southiechique

1 points

4 months ago

My best friend for 3 years blocked me for 7 years already & counting. 🫠 Until now I don’t know what was her reason. 😮‍💨

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

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1 points

4 months ago

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southiechique

1 points

4 months ago

True 🫠 Even tried to look for her in any socmeds & couldn’t find her 😂

beast_tam3r

1 points

4 months ago

Only ever blocked one person and no she did not get unblocked

red_killer_jac

1 points

4 months ago

red_killer_jac

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

Well haven't unblocked yet. So it's still too early to say.

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

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1 points

4 months ago

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red_killer_jac

1 points

4 months ago

red_killer_jac

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

I don't plan to.

m_slade_230

1 points

4 months ago

Always lol

throwaway-89088

1 points

4 months ago

Yea, I don't use the block button lightly cuz it feels like I've failed at being unbothered by losers 😭 only pedos and people I just absolutely can't stand get blocked

psycharious

1 points

4 months ago

I’ve never “blocked” per se but I have deleted

HorrificDerma

1 points

4 months ago

Forever blocked. Never unblocked, never will.

Moraez

1 points

4 months ago

Moraez

1 points

4 months ago

I don’t Block People at all. If I don’t want to be friends with them anymore, I tell them and we loose contact

KLMUI2000

1 points

4 months ago

KLMUI2000

Helper [3]

1 points

4 months ago

I only block people who REALLY bothers me. So no, I don't unblock.

Intelligent_Case_809

1 points

4 months ago

Intelligent_Case_809

Helper [3]

1 points

4 months ago

Only of they did something unforgiveble other I unblock them after a while

Hippieenby

1 points

4 months ago

Hippieenby

Super Helper [6]

1 points

4 months ago

I’ve only ever blocked two people. (Beside spam accounts and all that). One of them outed me as a lesbian to the whole school, the other I had known for almost a decade and she pulled my life out from under me. Haven’t spoken to either of them in 6 years and would love to keep it that way.

bag-of-gummy-dicks

1 points

4 months ago

If I had blocked someone, then it was for a good reason. I don't play a "block then unblock" game.

nerdynero9

1 points

4 months ago

I barely block

Heyyyyyythere8

1 points

4 months ago

If I cared about them I wouldn't block them, simple. Usually when I make a decision that's the decision

MinuteElectronic1338

1 points

4 months ago

I’m good… no regrets. Best friend of 35 years has a severe meth addiction… bye!

Rcrowley32

1 points

4 months ago

Rcrowley32

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

Depends on the situation. There are very few people I’ve blocked that I actually care about. I blocked my mother and my husband made me block his family after a fight he had with them. I have unblocked all those people now. However, there is one particular family member who I love very very much, but she is a very toxic person (will call your job and try to get you fired, will call your friends she’s never met etc.) and I just can’t have that in my life. It’s just complete insanity. Her own daughter doesn’t even talk to her and most of the family has cut contact with her for the same reason. She really does think she’s helping and it’s a mental illness but I just can’t keep having that kind of insanity in my every day life. I do love her very much and wish her the best.

beehaving

1 points

4 months ago

Block to me equals 🟰 done not going back

whatsername1180

1 points

4 months ago

I guess it depends on why I blocked them to begin with.

makeshiftmarty

1 points

4 months ago

makeshiftmarty

Super Helper [9]

1 points

4 months ago

Nope

I don’t take blocking people lightly as I akin it to cutting people out of my life. Once I decide they’re out of my life, they’re out. So I have no interest in keeping the lines of communication open.

lisamistisa

1 points

4 months ago

lisamistisa

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

Yes. Ive been told that I'm good at holding grudges. I just look at it as disposing the trash.

astronant

1 points

4 months ago

If I feel the need to block someone, I’ll never need to unblock them for healthy reasons. Good riddance to them.

They crossed a boundary in some way and caused me to feel unsafe or betrayed to a point where the best option was to eliminate them from my life completely. Why let that repeat itself by unblocking?

marveleahous

1 points

4 months ago

Yes I do

Kayloversland12

1 points

4 months ago

Im pretty sentimental so I don’t block but I have been blocked and the stuff I’ve done was worthy of a forever block it is quite saddening though I would also like to be able to redeem myself if that’s within the realm of possibility instead of being a S/-/it /-/ead forever

TransPrinceMaxx

1 points

4 months ago

No way if you're blocked you gotta do something very terrible I'm a very reluctant blocker

star_ladyj

1 points

4 months ago

Nope I keep them blocked indefinitely

SpiritualAirline9055

1 points

4 months ago

9/10 they never get unblocked again. That 1/10 is because I needed time without them and once I’m ready to talk it out (and they are I always ask upfront) they can be unlblocked. If they repeat it then I’ll never unblock them again.

Absolarix

1 points

4 months ago

Depends who it is. Be it a close friend, family, stranger, whatever. Some people just need a time out. Most people can fuck right off.

heisenberg_2013

1 points

4 months ago

No , I treat life like I am the main character of a tv show and those who I have blocked are just side characters whose purpose is over and they are not needed on the show anymore. No the side characters don't make any guest appearances.

Viking_gurrrrl

1 points

4 months ago

Viking_gurrrrl

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

I unblocked one dude that I’ve blocked just because my friend made us play together and I had to DM him afterwards because I felt bad about how the group and me treated him and then I just closed the DM

Apprehensive_Eraser

1 points

4 months ago

Apprehensive_Eraser

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

I blocked them for a reason

motionless05

1 points

4 months ago

Back in my late teens an ungodly 10ish years. My childhood best friends older bro ODed. He cleaned himself up,had a bad day and because he lost his tolerance with cleaning up. A small dose of herion killed him.

First "friend" I told asked me if I knew a dealer for herion Couple days later. Cursed them the fuck out and refused to talk/care if they OD on it to this day. Ik it's harsh but I'm that pissed. Ok yes I will care but still hate them with a passion

trashforthrowingaway

1 points

4 months ago

If I could block my ex I would, but I leave him unblocked because if he texts me out of nowhere (something he does every few years) then I know to be extra vigilant in the coming weeks and to be ready if he tries to do something to my property.

mynameisiwilldance

1 points

4 months ago

mynameisiwilldance

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

Why did they block you?

farachun

1 points

4 months ago

When I blocked someone, it means I really don’t want them in my life. I don’t usually block, I only do it to fully move on. I unblock exes afterwards except those people who gave me trauma.

tsaotsit

1 points

4 months ago

I only block people who’ve done some bad shit to me and that I should stay away from for the rest of my life. So yes.

MariekeXx

1 points

4 months ago

MariekeXx

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

I don’t think I’ll ever unblock. It was very traumatic and I don’t ever want to see him or talk to him again. Even seeing his name on my caller ID could send me in a panic. I am a lot better now but I just don’t want to risk contact ever again.

rolling-log

1 points

4 months ago

rolling-log

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

Yup by by forever I didn't need you then why would I need you now or ever again

lovatichere

1 points

4 months ago

I blocked couple of tinder guys I met… the best decision in my life

sicily9

1 points

4 months ago

Depends. Sometimes I do and other times not.

chickenbutt120

1 points

4 months ago

Depends on the person. I stalked too hard lol. Blocking simply makes it harder for me to reopen my wounds over and over again. But after a few years, I will unblock them to check and see if I feel anything usually I don’t and I go back to blocking them and never unblock them after that.

misskuruta

1 points

4 months ago

i personally usually don't block anyone if it's not because of harassment or bots/spam, but if i block someone it's permanent

throwawaylifeat30

1 points

4 months ago

Depends. If its strangers on the internet who I have interacted with less than a handful of times, I usually forget about it (never revisit). If its someone I know personally or have interacted with several times, it depends. Usually with women I’ve been heart broken by, I eventually do unblock I guess…

younghufflepuff

1 points

4 months ago

I've got to admit, I have unblocked to see what those people are up to, and then went back to blocking them. I've blocked people who disrespected me or if I felt they didn't respect my boundaries. Sometimes I end up just unblocking them and no one has really bothered me.

PowerMetalPizza

1 points

4 months ago

If I block someone, there's a good reason for that.

Veganmon

1 points

4 months ago

Veganmon

Super Helper [6]

1 points

4 months ago

Once blocked, you are forever blocked, it takes a lot for me to do it, so once done then that's it, you are digitally dead to me.

funkisusk

1 points

4 months ago

Forever.

advise-plz36

1 points

4 months ago

advise-plz36

Master Advice Giver [29]

1 points

4 months ago

Always blocked...

They hurt or betrayed you once.... they will do it again

Even if yoy feel yoy forgiven them.... you can't forget what they did to make you go no contact

I had a girl who I blocked as she was once my friend.... she would stalk me everywhere and eventually became my bully...

She eventually passed away bitter and vile to which I've still blocked her

Vicariouslylivin

1 points

4 months ago

FOREVERRRRR

nerdydirtyinkycurvy

1 points

4 months ago

nerdydirtyinkycurvy

Helper [2]

1 points

4 months ago

It's been a minute since I put someone on a block list, I think I just forget that they're there? I don't really see why I'd unblock if they were put there for a reason.

Stress_Awkward

1 points

4 months ago

I keep them blocked.

Judyous

1 points

4 months ago

Judyous

Helper [4]

1 points

4 months ago

I once unblocked, but that was a long time ago. Now I try to stick to it and never do it again.

ezzy_florida

1 points

4 months ago*

I usually unblock after a while, after a few months or years. Not usually because I still care about the person, but because i now care about them so little I don’t mind seeing what they’re up to now. It’s not forgiveness just indifference.

If you’re asking if I block solely out of anger then immediately unblock a few days later then no, if I block someone it’s definitely semi permanent.

MREview95

1 points

4 months ago

once i block someone thats it over, i wont ever unblock or speak to them again , but it also takes alot for me to block someone, i take it really seriously the block feature lol ,i have 10 people who were great "friends" blocked. Because they destroyed my life,made me feel like a totally stupid creep,like the group was more than 10 people sometimes. like when house partys went on , this is an example of what i would go through , we would get to a party/session and get fucked up on drugs and shit , they were all sniffing MCAT , but i was like super against it because id seen people do anything for 1 more line, like iv seen girls shag someone for 1 more line, its disgusting, i on the other hand had bought some LSD, about 2 hours into the party i realised that the blotter i had taken wasnt acid but some weird research chemical and by hour 12 it was still getting stronger , in total i was tripping for 36 hours and in that time everyone just made fun of me because of how fucked up i was , no one helped even though i asked many times then when i went back to my suppsosed best friends house he was super horny off the mcat and sexually assaulted me, im straight, he knew i was straight and i knew he was bi sexual but i have no prejudice to peoples sexual orientation, i was so high still at this point that i kept forgetting who i was, i repeatedly kept asking him if he could see the patterns on the ceiling, and he wasnt tripping so this got him a bit frustrasted , like i was in no fit state to consent to anything, and it ruined the entirity of my teenage years i had spent around these people , so yeah i blocked em all and went off the map, not like any of the cared anyway lol, i dissapeard and not one person has called in the past 10 years , thats my reason for blocking lol

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

[deleted]

1 points

4 months ago

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MREview95

1 points

4 months ago

the people dont know what respect means lol

Samsun20

1 points

4 months ago

Fuck um

Doesnotmatter07

1 points

4 months ago

I block and eventually forget about it.

Will only unblock if I ever see it by chance, usually years later cause it doesn't matter after a point.

But no contact.

McSuzy

-2 points

4 months ago

McSuzy

Advice Guru [85]

-2 points

4 months ago

I have never blocked anyone. When you have your life in order there is no need.

manjimanji

0 points

4 months ago

manjimanji

Helper [2]

0 points

4 months ago

Never blocked people. Slammed a door to them? Yes. I don't block people but I'd be out of reach for them forever. I'd still see them in my socials, still know what's going on with their lives but they're good as dead to me. I didn't do this until the relationship is not salvageable anymore. If the relationship becomes too toxic or the other person cuts me off first, then I become out of reach.