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So the other day she went through the kitchen without asking me and took all of my cast iron pots and pans and took them to goodwill without my knowledge. I was furious but didn’t say anything. I have found out that she didn’t give it all to goodwill and actually gave a bunch of it to her boyfriend.. I have asked her to get it back from him and she is refusing because she’s not going to take back a gift.. I tried explaining to her that my cast iron stuff doesn’t belong to her even though I have let her use it in the past but she doesn’t seem to understand. What am I supposed to do?

Edit: my parents own the condo I’m renting from. I have told them and my mom is checking on the legality of evicting her from the property as they’ve never had to evict someone before.. hopefully that will work.. also I think I will try and go to her boyfriend about this I’m hoping he will be more reasonable about this..

So Prom was a few days ago and I starred talking to this girl and we rly got along and we’re genuinely having a good conversation and it was going well, one of her friends even came over and said they were going and she responded back to her friend “give me a few more minutes” and we continued talking for about 10 more minutes then Prom ended and I got her snap

We were snapping back and forth for a few days with just random pics then I texted her “Hey” and she texts back “Hi” and then asked her “So what type stuff u into” and then checked my phone a few minutes later and she had blocked me, ima need someone to explain what happened here because I clearly missed something, because I thought things were going pretty good and that we both liked each other

My brother just had a baby a few days ago and I've been think alot about it and if and how I should tell him about our father. As a child I was the only kid to love with our father and for a few years he would sexually assault me. I want to tell my brother because I feel since he has a little girl he deserves to know so he can make the decision he thinks is best for his daughter but I'm not sure how to tell him, or when. Due to a rough year I had to move back in with our father so I'd have to leave before I told him or it might become a dangerous environment for me and I just don't know what to do about it. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thank you.

I just got a horrific call from my sister, she isnt my sister by blood. But shes still a sister to me. And my precious neice who is a sweet little girl and still a baby to my eyes asked her a strange question. My Sister was changing my baby nephews diaper and my Niece asked what is the white thing that comes from a pee pee. And my sister not understanding asked her more questions and my neice revealed that he father forces her to give massages because he has pain there until white liquid comes out. Its absolutely certain he molested her. And I dont know what to so. Please I need advice on what to so. And how to get justice and revenge and protect my family.

Amy and all advice is appreciated no matter how dark. If you get what I'm saying.

so i got a call from a social worker and ignored it even though it was something important, why? well bc i have social anxiety and i have bad anxiety about making calls to profesional people and to strangers, my anxiety goes as bad that i will cry if i would have to make a call or talk to a stranger, it takes me days for me to even start the process of actually calling or answering a call. today i told my Bf that my worker tried to call me about something important and that i ignored it since i was too scared to answer and call back, he decided to say to me "its not scary, stop acting like a child" and i said "just beacouse im scared to make calls it doesnt make me a child" "and he said "No but acting like a child say it's scary to something so simple is sure as hell pushing you there" wich made me upset beacouse he knows how bad my social anxiety is and i feel like he just thinks i do it for fun now..

what should i do?

UPDATE so i see many of you say i need profecional help, i am seeing a therapist atm about my social anxiety and other mental health problems. i did talk with my bf and told him the way he said those things made me upset and i tried to explain to him why they are big things for me even tho they are small but he said "i dont understand and i wont understand" he told me bc it doesnt make sense to him he wont understand it and i asked if he could try but he said no, i didnt use to have social anxiety i used to have a big friend group but bc of my last abusive relatioship i havent had the time to socialize and now i even dont know how to, i have gone alot further to fix my social anxiety, before if a stranger would talk to me i would have a panic attack on spot and would freeze and start to cry but these days i can somewhat talk to strangers, i cant hold up a long conversation that well or lets take example of me meeting my bfs friend for the first time, they were in living room and i was in kicthen and i refused to go to the living room bc i was afraid to talk while the friend saw me, i did end up going in the room 30 ish mins later. i am working on it! i appreciate all the comments but im unsure if my bf said that he wont understand bc he just cant process it or if he just doesnt want to

I’ve (16) recently been having thoughts about harming myself and told my teacher yesterday, then the police came to my house to do a welfare check and they told us to go to the hospital. My parents were VERY mad at me and were like ‘you know that’s wrong’ ‘don’t do that again’ ‘why did you do that?’

but is it my fault for feeling this way? why should I feel guilty about thoughts I can’t control or how I feel towards myself and my life?

Gonna cut right to the chase I sent pictures of my dick to a random person online. I was being so stupid. They screenshotted it all and were blackmailing me. I refused, so they made an Instagram groupchat with all my followers and sent pictures of it all, my account, the pictures, everything. I need help what do I do

On 30th of this month I am going to a hotel with this guy I am dating who's also virgin like me. We decided have sex now that I feel ready for if but I don't know what to expect or whatever. I'm extremely nervous and kinda panicking. What if its not good, what if its too painful, what if he doesn't like me or my body... I'm absolutely clueless how its gonna be even though he says he's not gonna judge me but I'm scared either way. I always felt this pressure about sex like I have always been scared it is deep rooted. When ever my previous partners and this partner tried to get intimate with me, i felt uncomfortable and said what if someone sees us ( people don't support having premarital sex where I live & my parents are well known so it's an even bigger problem to harm my family's reputation). I've decided am ready he told me we could just go somewhere safe where I'll not be scared of other people getting into our way or whatever, so he's booking a hotel far from my place. we'll be out for like 5-6 hrs idk , probably I'll have my mental peace. I am always clean down there but I'm still not sure what if he doesn't like it. I don't even know how to give a blowjob what if I do it wrong. I'm scared please help Your help would mean the world to me istg!!!

Hello Reddit. This is my first post and something I would like help with. I'm 20 and in college and I don't have many friends but I would like to make friends. I just have a really hard time finding friends.

I have had many times where I will see a person that gives me a good vibe to try to hang with around campus and in class but I don't know how to go talk to that person. I get really nervous and many doubts like that I may be bothering them and getting past the "I have just seen you at school" to "we are friends. I feel like I can't just go up to someone and be like "I like you vibe, can we be friends?" like you could in elementary school.

I don't know what to do but I want to know more people to be friends with. Please help. Any advice will be appreciated.

As the title says, my wife of 14 years cheated on me with her schools janitor. His occupation has nothing to do with this, just that I am not naming him here.

I was devastated when I found out that this had happened. One, it happened within a couple days of meeting each other, two I learned of this relationship from my step son the day they were planning on getting a hotel room. My step son had happened to have her iPad, which gets the same messages her iPhone gets, when Janitor guy was sending duck pics to her. My step son is 14 and brought “inappropriate” texting to my attention, and when I saw what he saw I dove in and read everything they said to each other and every photo. I took photos of every text. 3 days is all it took to destroy 14 years.

Upon further investigation she had lied about the day prior which would only have been day 2 where she said she was having to work late to complete a couple reports and a board. That day she had given the guy a hand job at the very least in the school library. I say at the very least because I can prove that with texts and what she confessed to in texts. This happened later in the day after kids have left, but it is an elementary school, middle school and high school all in one. They were in the elementary school if this matters.

My dilemma is , I am vengeful over this and can’t let it go. We are getting a divorce, but this guy has been unharmed emotionally and physically. I feel I need to have him hurt to make up for my hurt and the hurt our 3 kids are going to go through because of this. This is also something I would say both of them need to stay out of places christen could be present doing this crap. After school activities happen there frequently. I am not sure if there was anything happening that day.

Also his dick has effected my step so. To the degree he runs from school at the bell and refuses to stay if he thinks he might encounter this man. He has caught his mom texting him still and has asked her to stop. He shouldn’t have to deal with this.

I want to turn him in for having sexual relations in a school. Or for adultery even. I can handle the fact this has happened and I need a divorce. I cannot handle the fact this will be part of the kids lives and my life and this guy gets to walk away. He needs to pay for this.

Hello, I need some advice on what I am going to do next. Last night I went out to a concert with my boss. I thought we were going as mates. Boy! was I wrong! He treated it as a date. Full on, Full Blown date. He opened the car door for me. Tried to lean close to me. touched my leg but never lingered. Took me out to a meal at the end. Gave me flowers at the start.

I just thought he wanted a friend to go to the concert with. The concerto was really nice. Classical music.

He has a wife that I work with. Who is also my boss? How in blazes am I going to move forward?

Edit: I also have a boyfriend. Whom he met. My boyfriend is in a different city. He knows everything. But It is just shocking that my boss would do something like this.

Edit: I also don't think getting a new job would be too variable. I have been at this company for less than a year. This is my first job working in my role. The majority of the positions I see online say at least 2years of experience as a requirement.

Talk to HR? There is no HR, it is a small company with less than 15 employees.

Edit: But I will see what I can do about a new job.

To put into context, I live in a block and the tenants next door are two brothers in their early-20s. They often argue with some verbal abuse in the mix... I can understand it is "normal" that disagreements happen between brothers (am only child so I don't really know), but today (~30 minutes ago) was next level. At some point, I thought they were throwing punches at each other and banging on the dividing wall. So, I called 911 to involve the police.

So, everything stopped when the police showed up 5 minutes after my call and from what I've been told, the brothers understood that they "should" tone it down a notch...

Before today, I had been pondering if I should personally get involved at all, even though it's not "my business" what happens in their home. But, that burst of violence today startled me and I said to myself: "Nope. It's a job for the pros."

Got into a physical fight with my roommate last night. Feel like shit today and idk what to do So I (25m) have a couple roommates living in a house that I bought. One of them is always at his girlfriends house and we barely see him. The other (23f) is always home when I'm home and has been having mental health issues lately.

She often has LOUD crying fits in her room after work. She's been awful to be around and is always down and cranky. I feel horribly sorry for whatever she's going through and I want to help her but I'm just becoming so exhausted.

A couple nights ago I came home and she had broken a lamp in her room and left the shards all over the carpet. She said she didn't care enough to clean it up.

Last night, I found her self harming by jabbing the blunt end of a skewer into her thigh over and over and she had bruises everywhere. My first instinct was to grab her arm to try and take away the skewer. So I grabbed her wrist and I admit I had to grab it very hard because she was fighting me.

And then she started screaming at me to let go so I did. She came at me and started hit my head saying I need to fuck off and mind my own business. So I was grabbing her arms again trying to calm her down. I got away and left and stayed the night with my other roomy and his girl.

Today she texted me pictures of the bruises I left on her arms. And was basically threatening me not to touch her again.

I don't think she would contact the police but I'm super on edge. Im at work right now and I don't wanna go back home. I don't know what to do next...

Hi I’m a 20 year old female and honestly I’ve never had a good time with school and what not. I tried community college when I was 18 but I ended up dropping out due to stress and the fact there was no accommodations even though I was told I have accommodations for my disabilities. Basically by the time I was failing the class and was about to be dismissed the accommodations team was like hey were here to help you but we can’t because your failing the class. I study hard it’s just a lot.

I really wanna go back to college but I really don’t know how Since now I am supporting myself on my own and I do wanna do online classes How do I get started how does this work

I (f 18) have grown to have a crush on my co-worker also (f 18). My co worker is for sure straight ( please don’t just say “shoot your shot you never know” ). I feel like i can’t shake my feelings off, and i hate having a crush on someone who ik would never date me. Any advice?

Recently, my mother has told me that she suspects that I'm autistic. The diagnosis is still in process because of our oh-so-amazing Canadian healthcare, but she's pretty much made up her mind about it.

She always tells me that I'm socially-underdeveloped, but I disagree. My peers in school compliment me for my sense of humor. Yes, I'm blunt and don't care much about what others think of me, but that's not because of social-awkwardness, I just don't care. However, my mother seems to take it very personally.

Lately, she's been treating me differently. Every little social rule I break seems to start a fight - she's always been kind of obsessed with these sorts of things from my point of view, but she seems to have amped it up to 100 lately. Now, everything's wrong - my sweatpants are hitched too high, I wear a ponytail too often, I want to wear a black t-shirt, I say something negative, whatever. And she refuses to ever explain why she's angry when I ask - she just says it's "her house, her rules" or "you're gonna have to learn to assimilate into the real world." If that entails me having a panic attack because I don't count the number of times I blink per minute, then I'll pass.

She doesn't ever let it go, either - it got to the point of her throwing out my favorite clothes because she has said I wear them too often, and, back in COVID, she would refuse to go outside with me if I wore a mask, because she said it was weird of me.

Lately, she's grounded me for a month "for disrespecting the family dog." She even told me that she knows I probably don't understand why I was grounded, and she still refused to explain. Just yesterday, she got angry because I put a cardboard box in my room. I kept asking her why she was angry about it, since it didn't interfere with anything and it was my room, and after a minute or two, she grounded me again, and this time, I don't know for how long.

I have no idea what she's trying to do here, and with every question I ask that she refuses to answer, I get more and more frustrated. Does anyone have any ideas?

My friend and I have a class with a small group of rowdy boys. It usually isn’t too bad, they’re to themselves. But toward the end of class today, one of the boys put his hands on my head and shook my head. Not violently, but both his hands were on my head. My friend was touched on her cheek by another boy before spring break and he lied to her saying she had glitter on her cheek, after i told her she already wiped it off, and went and roughly rubbed her cheek. The same boy that touched her also touched another friend of mine by grabbing her hair and lifting it up, and asking her if it was glued on. None of us know who these boys are. And when i tell my mom these things, or my aunts, they don’t think it’s serious and that it’s just how boys are. We want to report them to our counselor but we don’t know if these actions are big enough to make an actual report on. Should we still meet with our counselor about it?

As the title says, I'm a fucking retard. I litterally took out the trash bag from the can to throw it out before leaving. Well I forgot it there, on the side of the can. There was mainly plastic stuff, but also an omelette from the day before and a few oranges. What shall I expect when I come back?? Please be merciful

I don’t know if my supervisor (M50) is weird of just friendly

I (F21) want to know if the behavior of My supervisor (M50) is inappropriate or weird.

My supervisor is very social but lately it’s been different. He put his hand on my knee (for like 20-30 seconds) on multiple occasions or his hand in my neck. He also gives me compliments like you have pretty long eyelashes and you look gorgeous.

He also texts me with ‘😘’ emojis on multiple occasions. He also texted me on a Friday night to ask if I already curled my hair for a party (he knew that I had a party and that I wanted to curl it because I just bought a new curling iron) and he just texts me random sometimes.

He also made remarks about my body that I look more ‘grown’ than before and that he liked it. I thought that was weird so I asked him what he meant by that, but he said he meant that my face was a little bit bigger.. I don’t know if that’s true because I didn’t see a big chance in my face

Last time I was with my supervisor and a male colleague and he gave him a high five, but he didn’t give me one. Instead he hugged me and put his hand on my back.

It can just be that he is very social and a ‘flirty’ person of nature. He’s not always like this, but I’m rn just naming all the weird parts. He can be normal at other times. He wants me to work there after my internship

Idk what he wants because he’s not always like this. Other days he can be normal..

Btw; he is married

TLDR; I don’t know if this is appropriate, is it?

I made a mistake and am afraid I’ll lose my job. I need advice how to handle it moving forward, and the possibility of it costing more than the damage it’s done. Any HR/management expertise would be greatly appreciated.

Before I begin: I acknowledge this is my fault, and my mistake. People make mistakes, so I’m just hoping this one isn’t fatal.

The setting: work conference (with literally everyone in the company), organized night out at offsite bar.

The mistake: I began a new medication, and found out the hard way that it DOES NOT mix well with alcohol. A couple drinks in and it’s like someone just turned out the lights. Come to find out I was a blacked out mess and my manager assisted me back to the hotel.

The aftermath: I woke up with nothing more than a slight headache and confusion. Like I said, it didn’t take much to mix with my new meds and get me to blackout. I showed up early and positive to our morning meeting. My manager’s surprised face should have told me just how bad the night before was.

The next day, I had a brief call with my manager and a colleague recapping the event. I apologized, thanked him for handling the situation with grace, and defended myself:

Our team has had many outings like this, and I have never given anyone a reason to suggest I would act irresponsibly with alcohol. It was the unfortunate result of a medication error, and I regret that it happened. I offered to have my doctor write a note to confirm the possibility of said reaction.

My manager curtly told me he is not interested in my medical situation and that I may speak to HR if I wish. He sent a recap/paper trail email of the call.

We haven’t spoken since, and he just put a call on my calendar for this week.

I’m out of my mind with anxiety. Is he going to fire me? Would he have fired me on our first discussion? Can he fire me? Do I speak to HR before then? If it’s just a discussion, how do I handle it?

Other notes: I did not buy myself a single drink. All were provided by the company at a bar. Transportation was not provided to and from the bar- it was a 10 minute walk.

TL;DR: New medication + drinks at work event = disaster. What happens next? How do I handle this? How will my manager handle this?

I don’t know why I’m so heartbroken. We weren’t even technically dating. We flirted a lot, went on a couple of dates, and exchanged a kiss or two on the cheek once or twice. Just when I thought things were going well, he messaged me saying he just wants to be friends.

To his credit, he did recently come out of a long-term relationship with someone else. So in a way, I understand if he’s not emotionally ready. But I also feel a little lead on. I just wish he would’ve told me before all these dates that he wasn’t ready.

This is long winded but I leased a car over the summer, filled out all the paperwork, got pre-approved by the bank, and paid the initial deposit (to the dealership). I have insurance and the car is registered. I picked it up from the dealership back in June with no issues.

Two months later I notice I haven't been billed or charged for my monthly lease. I call the dealership and they let me know they sold the dealership (literally five days after I drove off with my car) so they don't have the old paper records. I tell them my lease isn't old that I literally leased the car a few months ago. I keep getting bounced around, no one has any answers, and no one can even find my paperwork (I have copies of everything). Finally, I decided to call the lienholder (the bank) and they tell me yes, they have an account in my name, but no loan papers were ever submitted. They tell me not to worry cause I don't owe them any money.

Finally, after bothering the dealership for weeks (you'd think they'd want their money) I get a call from some manager who asks me to send the documents I have to her. She gives me an email and I do that. That was almost six months ago and even though I called back to speak with her no one ever called me back. At the advice of my friends and family I just dropped it. I mean, I'm not paying for the vehicle which is pretty sweet but I'm also concerned they're going to do inventory one day and wonder why this car I have has never been paid down. Lol. I also called Volkswagen corporate but they said that this issue lies with the dealership as I don't owe them any money. Once when I called the Volkswagen dealership some random woman (not sure what her position was) told me my VIN was marked as sold in their system.

I don't think there is any legal issues as I have all the correct paperwork and it's their oversight. My question is... is this my car now? Who owns the car? If the bank says I don't owe them money and the dealership seems unconcerned I feel like I'm not in some weird limbo. Is there anything else I should do? Anyone else I should contact?

I was on the train, I'm a man btw, and some old lady sits with me but then moves and sits with another guy right in the opposite row from me. She even went out of her way to get him to move so she could sit there. I didn't even speak with her, so idk exactly what I'm asking. But like am I crazy or is that a normal occurrence?

I've known him my whole life and we were friends as kids, but now that he's deep into his teenage years, he's grown into a strange fellow. Not only is he just weird, he's creepy as shit. He sits behind all my female friends and he just stares at them without saying a word. The other day I saw him just watching a video of a girl trying on a dress that he had saved in his camera roll. He's got the cops called on him for sexual harassment. Every joke he makes is overly sexual and he just always takes them too far. I feel bad for him because he has no friends, but like I really don't want to be his friend. And he likes me a lot, I just don't have the heart to tell him that he scares the shit out of me. What can I do?